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MMC - speed of action

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AuntieDee · 24/03/2015 12:06

I've just gone to the EPU today to start a medical management. Within 10 minutes of the pessaries being inserted I was having bad cramping. Only just made it home before nausea and bum stuff hit. Is this normal?

I've had co codamol and ibuprofen with lysine, and along with a hot water bottle it has dulled the pain a little.

I can't believe it happened so quickly :(

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AuntieDee · 24/03/2015 16:00

I want this to be over :(

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Allstoppedup · 24/03/2015 16:04

I have no advice but just wanted to say I hope it all happens as quickly as possible for you and I'm so sorry for your loss.

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AuntieDee · 24/03/2015 17:29

Thanks Allstoppedup

My OH is being really supportive well was falling asleep and snoring next to me but has been out and fed the dogs and horses and is now off to the supermarket to get some heavier duty towels and a takeaway on the way home

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 24/03/2015 18:36

Hand holding. It will be over soon.

Allstoppedup · 24/03/2015 19:12

Look after yourself and make sure you get as much rest as possible.

Glad your DP is looking after you. Enjoy your takeaway and I hope tomorrow is easier. Flowers

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AuntieDee · 24/03/2015 19:21

He treated me and got me sushi instead of a take away as he knows how much I love it and didn't like not being able to eat it.

He's one in a million!

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AuntieDee · 24/03/2015 22:34

Still bleeding :( passed 3 smallish clots thumb sized clots and one large one. Still having major abdominal pain even though the bleeding itself seems to have stopped.

It's been 12 hours now with constant pain and no letup :( they didn't give any inkling it was going to be this horrific :( no contractions and a pause, just constant pain :(

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AuntieDee · 25/03/2015 20:29

All the blood/clots stopped at 10pm but the pain continued until 4:30am. I wasn't convinced I had bled enough and neither was EPU. I'm having another course of treatment but taken it orally this time due to the speed it worked using it as a pessary.

I took the tablets at 7pm. Cramping has started again but as of yet no blood loss.

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Allstoppedup · 26/03/2015 09:12

So sorry to read that it is still on going.

I hope that your DP is still looking after you.

Again, hope this next course works quickly for you. Flowers

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AuntieDee · 26/03/2015 12:12

Well it seems the pains yesterday without blood loss was shedding of the placental tissue and my cervix had closed. As soon as the first clot passed it was a flood. It was almost as much as a really long wee and quite frightening. I had lots more pain so that was me up until dawn and a hell of a lot of blood. All the cramping has now gone but I am feeling weak :(

OH was a bit useless this morning. It snowed unexpectedly last night and he didn't even bother to bring the poor naked horses in so I ended up having to do it. He 'helped' but at one point spooked one of the horses and I got pinned against the wall :( could really have done without that...

He offered to make me a brew about 40 minutes ago but that's still not materialised as he is putting his new chainsaw together. Grrr

He's gone from being super supportive to being an effing arse - gonna lose my rag in a minute :(

Yesterday he only asked me how I was once - I was the process of passing a large clot and in a lot of pain so I replied honestly 'not good'. He didn't even answer me. I really don't know how to respond to this. The first day of treatment he kept saying how useless he felt. I said that he was there and that helped but it shouldn't be about how he feels - I was going through physical agony and petrified at the amount of blood loss, he just had his bloody feelings hurt :(

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AuntieDee · 26/03/2015 13:16

Just had a long talk and cry with him and he has basically said he didn't know what to do. I have said I didn't feel like I should have to beg for a hug or a hand hold. He said until I tell him he doesn't know whether I need to be given space or held. We have agreed to talk more x

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 26/03/2015 13:37

DH and I went through exactly the same during my mc. Talking is good. Tell him what you need. Try not to blame him for not knowing.

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AuntieDee · 26/03/2015 16:17

Thanks for the support :) it's hard not to be hard on him - he's got the easy part of it and it's hard to be sypathetic of his feelings when I'm having the same feelings plus pain.

I'm feeling much better and he is being great now. I'm debating uncancelling my riding lesson tomorrow and going ahead :)

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Allstoppedup · 27/03/2015 15:43

How are you feeling today Auntie?

Not sure where you are but we've had gorgeous weather today. I hope you managed to get out and go for a ride. It's been a long time since I had my own horse but I always felt so peaceful and content when I was with him. If your horse is that way inclined, a good old gallop is fantastically cathartic!

Hope you are having an easier day and your DP is behaving himself. I totally agree with PP that he must be all over the place himself but whatever you have both been through emotionally, you have physical discomfort and hormones in the mix so definitely need treating with care.

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AuntieDee · 28/03/2015 12:56

Thanks for checking in :) it was beautiful here and I had a really good day - and felt guity about it...

Since our chat OH has been amazing - he's just not a mind reader lol.

I've sent him off to a classic car show with his best friend and I'm having a chilled out lazy day

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AuntieDee · 31/03/2015 17:56

I'm still having brown loss and I'm still feeling like my uterus has been through the wringer :( I have a scan appointment tomorrow to make sure I am 'empty' and that I don't need any further intervention.

Just updating to keep the thread complete if anyone else is going through the same thing and finds it.

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AuntieDee · 01/04/2015 19:42

Seems the placental tissue has gone but the foetal tissue is still present. I'm booked for a surgical management tomorrow :(

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PrimroseEverdeen · 01/04/2015 19:48

Sorry for your loss and sorry the medical management hasn't gone as planned. Please don't stress about the surgical management. It is so much easier than what you have already been through. I've had 2 and they were absolutely fine. I only had very mild cramping and the bleeding was like a heavy period. Sending you lots of in mumsnetty hugs! Xx

eggcup · 01/04/2015 21:12

Sorry for all you've been going through auntiedee - the mc and the (if only temporarily) rubbish response from DP. Have been there with both things (I wonder if love of chainsaws is relevant!!)
Am currently classed as threatened mc by hospital but tbh feels like full blown to me : (
Hope tomorrow is as stress and pain free as possible for you.

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AuntieDee · 01/04/2015 23:01

Eggcup - chainsaws?

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AuntieDee · 01/04/2015 23:30

Eggcup - I've just reread that you are threatened. I hope everything is ok xx

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eggcup · 02/04/2015 09:16

Wasn't trying to be cryptic, just you mentioned DP going off to fix his chainsaw in your hour of need....sounded very familiar!!
All done for me, mc last night Sad
All the best to you x

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AuntieDee · 02/04/2015 10:32

Oh no I'm so sorry :( I'm here with you xx

I'm currently waiting in hospital for surgery. It's been over a week and I just want it over now :(

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AuntieDee · 02/04/2015 20:00

All over and done with. The surgical management was so much less traumatic and also less painful! The only negative of the experience was the theatre being full of pictures of babies - it was almost like 'here's what you could have won...'

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