Need to support partner through Mc... Help

[Chemistria]

Hi this is my first post and in sorry if it's in the wrong place, feel free to move it.

My partner was what we thought to be 8 weeks pregnant, she had brown discharge so I booked a private scan for that night and unfortunately it showed an empty sac of about5 weeks max. Needless to say we are both devastated,

We've been told to expect her to miscarry and I want to be strong for her but am really scared about what to expect- how do I know what's too much pain or too much bleeding?

I carried our DS and pregnancy was fine but I had a PPHand secondary PPH 3 weeks later , and was constantly told oh that bleeding is fine (until it obviously wasn't)

Please help I don't know how just looking for what I can do to support her what with being an anxious wreck myself waiting for this to properly start .... I know I need to be the strong one here but I don't feel it.

She's had red bleeding and sharp pain on and off this evening.

How do I know if she needs hospital treatment ?

Thanks for any replies please no harsh ones am feeling delicate needless to say x

Great minds!

Thanks both, I still have a big pack of iron that I was given after DS birth as I lost a lot of blood - do you think this will be ok? She is veggie too and does look a bit pale so it's probably a good idea x

Personally I'm a bit of an iron snob. I only use liquid iron or as citrate because it's more easily absorbed and doesn't clog you up. Don't know what type you have but often it's the ferrous stuff which can make you all clogged, which I don't like when you're already dealing with bleeding. But I am an iron snob

I lost mine at 12 weeks but growth had stopped at 8 weeks.
I'm vegi but didn't need more iron at all.
It was painful but it was fine with paracetamol and codeine.
I found that I passed most of it in one 'shot'. I got by with nighttime pads.
The bleeding carried on for about a week after.

Give her love and care and chocolate

Hi Chazzer and Pipbin.

Ok I will have a look for the liquid stuff, you're right they really do clog you up don't they.

Well we had the scan today and it went "well" in that they confirmed that everything had passed and her lining looked very thin. So I guess we can start looking to the future now, and thanks again for all the messages as when I first wrote that was so worried for her but you all kept me sane and hopefully a better gf for her than I would've been :-)

Lol and yes she's had some chocolate.

Onwards & upwards hopefully , hope all you ladies are ok. X

Onwards indeed.
Hope you are both well. Glad the scan went ok and I hope it wasn't too traumatic.

Good luck when you are ready to try again. It's hard when it's more involved than a regular pregnancy. Mine was IVF. Much more effort than a shag!

Excellent, I was so relieved after I had a similar scan. Glad you both got through and onwards indeed. Hopefully see you around here