People and their stupid comments

[onefootinthebed]

I was at my mums birthday meal last night big family occasion,my aunties were there. Some of them havnt met my ds who is 2 y 9m due to logistics. As soon as we got there it was all when's the next one,good time to have another I smiled politely and went and sat by my sisters who all have more than 1. Child. Hen we sat down I sat with my sisters and my dad wanted to have a little cuddle with ds and find out what he was doing in the day time as go do,ds got passed around abit and loves being venter of attention but I could here what they were saying,they were trying to get ds to tell ds to tell mummy he wants a baby. I gotmy dh to go and retrieve ds and kept him with us.ds is aware of brothers and sisters as in the childminder there are siblings I don't need him to being saying things like I want a baby or stupid adults encouraging him to say it,especially when I know 3 out of the 6 of them know what I have been through.

It ruined my night and I can't stop thinking about it this morning. I know I'm probably being over sensitive.

No you are not being over-sensitive at all. They're fucking insensitive, the ones who know are just plain cruel- they may not have intended to be cruel but what they did was very much so. You need to tell them so, write a letter and maybe even stay away from then if they're going to hurt like that.

People's comments piss me off, I've had 'at least you can get pregnant', great yes once out of how long trying? And my body failed to protect it. And 'at least you weren't further along, how horrific would it have been right at the end instead of now' thanks for minimising my pain, I'm not so fucking stupid I don't know that every extra day would be added hurt, that doesn't mean it's better happening now, it's better not at all.

And those aren't even the worst.

Sorry OP.

People are stupid and naive and don't realise the loss it is as it wasn't to do with them
don't let anyone say anything that makes u feel uncomfortable , if they are family or close friends tell them u don't like it
they should understand
I couldn't be around my friends with kids for a while they knew why and understood

Jus talk to them they might think your ok when really it isn't to u

WTF? I think it's bad enough when people make comments like that, or ask "when are you going to have another one?" etc even when they don't know you've suffered a loss. But to know that you have and to say stuff like that is just disgraceful.

When my mmc was discovered at my 3 month scan in November we were in the process of moving house. So my MiL thought it would be a good idea to say "it's for the best really - you wouldn't want to be pregnant while you're moving". Because obviously after waiting 8 months to get pregnant then carrying my baby for 3 months, it was definitely preferable to lose my baby so I could get on with moving house

Sorry OP