It wasn't meant to be.... FUCK OFF

[Stoatystoat]

That's all.
MMC picked up last week, completed over the weekend.

My baby was meant to be. Don't tell me this pain I'm in was meant to be.

I had 2 MMC's in my 20's. It's okay, you can try again. It wasn't meant to be. At least you are young and can try again......
FUCK OFF. It hurts and I'm in mental turmoil and (here's the important bit) I'M ALLOWED TO BE!
20 years later I still feel a pain on the due dates of my lost ones, guess I will always wonder. Yes I have 4 wonderful kids, but they are gone and they were mine, just for that small time.
Talk about it. Never be ashamed to think of them.Love to you all suffering now, I know how it feels. XX

33 years ago I lost one of my twin boys. He was 6 months old but was born with serious congenital heart problems. I had my DS3 about 2 years later. 22 years ago DS3 was knocked down and killed by a reversing lorry. I should have 33 year old twin DS's, 30 year old DS3 and my lovely suprise son 17 year old DS4. Instead I have a 30 year old son and a 17 year old son.

Life is a total crock of shite. It doesnt matter the age or gestation of a 'lost child' all that matters is the parents world falling apart. The sadness, the 'what ifs' the 'could have beens.'

I am sending my love and thoughts to you and your family tonight....also the same to anyone on this thread that has suffered the bereavement of a child/children. xxxx

Hey there, i second brummiegirl15, ("fuck off, and when you get there, fuck of a bit more" - good comment, well made). Had my third mc in eight months last week and all people need to say is "that really is completely shite and i am so so sorry" and then maybe give me some booze snd chocolate and offer to stick their fingers up and the shiteness of it all with me. Sending you solidarity my unfortunate sister! Xxxx

I had a mmc in Nov, discovered at 12 weekscan. As we were about to move, MiL helpfully pointed out that I wouldn't have wanted to be pregnant when we were moving so it's worked out for the best. I have no idea how I managed to keep my cool.

Another favourite has been people telling me "everyone I know who had mc got pregnant straight away after". Well as I'm currently on AF number 3, clearly I'm doing something wrong

I'm really sorry, I don't like that either. I have even tried saying it to myself for comfort / reason but it doesn't sit right. Wouldn't want anyone else saying that, I don't think they have the right. At all.

Sending a hug, it is such a crap time but it does get easier. Honestly x

There are no words that can make anything better. Wish people understood that & just said - ill be here for you. Nothing else makes any sense! You never stop grieving for the lost baby.