Can't stop the tears

[Fizzie100]

I really don't know how to start to feel better. I just keep thinking about what could have been. I'm so scared to try again but I want a baby more than ever now. Please please if anyone has any advice or ways to remember without constantly breaking down or to have hope for the future I would so love to hear. I am so sorry for everyone's losses

I'm afraid I have no real advice. Just rest up and let yourself recover and see how you feel and if you want to start trying again do so as soon as you feel ready.
I got pregnant with DD 3 months after my MC, it is scary at first but she's perfectly healthy now.
I'm so sorry for your loss

I'm in exactly the same boat right now. My advice is don't even try to stop the tears. I don't know how far into this you are. I'm only a few days down the line, having found out about mmc at 12 week scan on Friday. You need to give yourself time to grieve and that's something you can't put a time limit on.

I'm hopeful I will conceive again as I'm hopeful you will too. There ate no guarantees in this world (which bloody sucks). Be good to yourself. Cry when you need to and don't think there's a certain way you have to act or behave.

I know these are only words but please take care of yourself xxx

Hi Fizzie100, I hope you are starting to feel a bit better. I had my first silent miscarriage about 14 months ago at 12 weeks. Had been trying to get pregnant since then and have just had another silent loss at 10 weeks. With the first loss my tactic was to distract myself to try and get through the pain barrier. Unfortunately this didn't work for me and I didn't grieve sufficiently and wasn't myself for a long time. This time I am dealing with things very differently. I found out I had miscarried 5 days ago and am still waiting to go in to be induced (worst time ever!). But this time round I am taking time out on my own to grieve properly. The hardest part is accepting that the baby has gone. It's very hard when one minute it's here and then it's not. I have found it very helpful listening to songs about miscarriage and poetry to have a good blub and let it all out (but be careful, there are some truly awful songs along side the good ones! Some even made me laugh which isn't a bad thing!). Listening and reading then inspired me to write a letter to the babies I have lost (I tried a poem but turns out I'm not very creative!). I found it therapeutic and it's also something for a keepsake. One of the hard things about losing a baby is that you have no reminders, no trinkets. I wear a necklace which has my little boys finger print (I am very lucky to have a beautiful 3 year old boy) and on this I have a little silver heart and a tiny silver bird to represent the babies I have lost. I find it comforting to rub them gently in my fingers when I feel sad and to remind me that they were here.
Although its not what we want to hear in the early days, it can be sometimes be reassuring to know that losing a baby is very common and that majority of women will go onto to have healthy pregnancies. Don't give up hope. I am still in the painful darker stage but somehow, this time, I feel that it's all going to be ok. Look after yourselves ladies. Sending love to you all xx

An Angel wrote in the book of life, my baby's date of birth.
Then whispered as she closed the book "Too beautiful for earth".