Our baby has died

[ProbablyMe]

Yesterday we went for an amniocentesis at 15+3 following a high risk of 1:5 given after NT and bloods. When the Dr began to scan me it was very quickly apparent that our baby did not have a heartbeat. I have to go back to the hospital today to take the first set of tablets to induce delivery followed by admission to labour ward on Sunday.

I don't know how to cope with this - and neither does my DP. All that is going through my head is could I have done something? I have hypothyroidism and am scared that that is the cause. The Constant said that there was a lot of fluid around the baby.

I am torn between wanting this all to be over but also feel almost protective of the body I still have inside me, even though it's no longer alive.

How do I get through this? At the moment I can't believe that the sun will rise in a couple of hours. It feels like the world should have stopped.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take each day - each hour - at a time for now. Eventually things will get better but allow yourself to grieve. There's time to be strong but don't feel you have to now. If you need to cry then cry .
It is normal for neither you nor your partner to know how to cope but don't isolate each other. Talk, hug and cry together

I am so sorry

Thinking of you. Take care of yourself. Lots of love x

I was so sad to read your post. I had some very sad news about a pregnancy at 8 months and it is devastating. However, the doctor who was called in to look at the scan, a very experienced woman doctor in her 60's, was amazing. The very first thing she did was to lay her hand on my arm and tell me that she wanted me to know that I had not caused this in any way. It was incredibly wise of her as otherwise I think I would have been so worried like you and blamed myself. I am sure you didn't cause it, so please try not to dwell on that. A WishUponAstar88 says above, take it moment by moment. Grieving is so, so painful but eventually you will feel better.

So sorry, I'll be thinking of you today x

So sorry probably I lost my son in May at 19 weeks. It's hard to believe but it does eventually get easier.

The staff were amazing very kind and respectful. I'm sure they will be the same at yours hospital.

When your ready I found the charity SAND's incredibly helpful.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your baby and I will be thinking of you please be kind to yourself x

I'm so sorry for your loss probablyme. I had a MC at about that same time. It is heartbreaking. You mustn't blame yourself, it will not be anything you have done.

You need time to grieve, so please be kind to yourself and take enough time off work (if you work).

I promise you it will get easier to bear.

So sorry.

I'm so sorry op it is heartbreaking. Thinking of you.

It will not have been anything you did. Look after yourself.