missed miscarriage...devastated

[livvi]

Hi,
I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions, its a long story but its just left me feeling completely heartbroken.
Found out I was pg 25/08, into hosp on 01/09 with pain. Doc was quite sure I was having an eptopic so I had accepted that it was game over, a scan revealed I was only 5wks but everything was as it should be..except it was id twins and to go back in 2weeks. So on the 18/09 I went for another scan to find out I had triplets everything was looking really good fhb's really good, 2in 1 sac sac, 1 on its own. Was tols to go back again in 3wks everyone at the hosp was really thrilled and after initial shock so was I. Returned for scan on 09/10 and all three of my babies have died, the erpc was done yesterday and now I just dont know what to do with myself,I cant help feeling they made a mistake.
I would just also like to say Im so sorry for everyone else I have read about on here my heart really does go out to every single one of you x

I'm so sorry. A missed miscarriage is a horrible shock - especially when you are just there for a routine scan.

Aw so sorry for you Livvi,

Livvi, that is so hard and I really feel for you. I have just had my third missed m/c, after a roller coaster time too. I thought I had m/c'ed, then there was a heartbeat, then things did not look right, then maybe it was OK then it was not...then the baby was gone. It's not quite the same as yours but I know a little of how you may be feeling. My first m/c was identical twins. I still wonder what it would have been like if only they had survived.

Look after yourself. I had my ERCP last Friday and am still bleeding and feeling not great. Please do take it easy and don't prescribe to yourself how you should feel. If you feel awful and sad (or angry) some of the time, that's fine. If you feel a bit better some of the time that is OK too. There is no right way to feel after something like this.

I hope you have a supportive and loving DH as I have.

Thank you CreepyCrawlyCarmenere and cupsnakes.
Unfortunately Nicola63 I do not have a dh. My bf and I actually decided to go our seperate ways the week after I fell pregnant, he has been very good though. Im only 20 so I know I have my whole life ahead but as it was an unplanned pg when I found out there was 3 it just felt it was meant to be...
Im so sorry that you have had such a tough time, the bleeding is terrible as its just a constant reminder I just wish so much that I could say something to make u feel better...everyone says it will get easier but as u probably know only to well it is extremely hard to believe!

Livvi
Can't say anything to help you feel better, but best wishes

Hi Livvi,

There's really nothing I can say to help, only how sorry I am. I had a missed m/c a month ago at 12 weeks. The bleeding stopped after a few days, although I did get an infection post ERPC, so make sure you are looking after yourself. I didn't feel able to talk to my family and friends about how I was feeling, and even though I don't post much, I found this site a good way to help me understand what had happened.

so sorry livvi...I have just had my third miscarriage and the last one was 'missed' I was having early scans due to past history and at 10 weeks after 4 weeks of hearbeats...my baby died.

you need your friend around you and someone who you can talk to and who understands.

I am so so sorry for your loss.