medical management at home - any experiences?

[gingerbreadmam]

hi

i should be 13 weeks pregnant but discovered 4 weeks ago that i had mc at 5 weeks. my hospital sent me home to mc naturally but it hasnt happened.

i spoke to hospital yesterday and am popping in this evening. they told me on the phone i would be offered medical management to take at home. has anybody had this and can you tell me your experiences?

i am reading up online but all i can see is about medical management in hospital with pessaries but the hospital implied it would be an oral tablet.

i am petrified after reading peoples experiences of the pain and the blood not to mention if anything goes wrong. i appreciate all experiences even if they are bad i would rather be prepared than thinking its going to be a heavy period as the hospital tells me.

thank you in advance i know it is difficult to talk about at times.

you have to wait that long? thats really bad. i really feel for you wonky. nice that you got to put the tree up tho, a little distraction at least. i cant believe it hasnt happened for you even after the second dose. so sorry.

i dont know if it has or hasnt happened?! bleeding got heavier around about 3.30ish and i have needed the cocodamol. wouldnt say the pain was horrendous but how constant it was was bothering me so i took them to help. ive passed a few decent sized clots but not massive and have had no huge gushes although the nurse did say you dont feel them as much if you have a pad on. Even so ive had the same maternity pad on about 4 hours and its ok. so yeah i really dont know, compared to a lot of experiences ive read about on here it doesnt sound quite right but i took the tablets almost 12 hours ago now so i imagine theyve done as much as theyre going to?!

Thinking of you ginger. Xx

Hope the night wasn't too bad ginger. Hope it's all over now. When I had medical management I had to do it in hospital (they did not offer the option of home) and I did not lie down at all. As soon as the cramps came I paced around the room as fast as I could, pacing faster as the pain intensified, then as soon as I felt a big clot coming I rushed to the loo to catch it in the bed pan thingy they said I had to use.
I'm just saying this because I think that pacing not only helps to control the pain but it also helps to get things moving along. It also felt instinctively what I must do.
That might help if you find things are going too slowly.

thank you guy and west. west i have jus responded on another thread but will add more detail here just incase anyone stumbles across this thread for advice.

i took 4 tablets just before 11.00am yesterday. at first i didnt think they were doing anything but after an hour i waa bleeding lightly. a couple of hours after this i started getting pains. i do get bad period pains and i wouldnt have said these were any worse. they started to annoy me as were so constant so i took some ibuprofen altho this didnt do anything so i later took 2 cocodamol. this took pain right off for a couple of hours.

with the pains the bleeding got heavier i noticed tiny stringy clots when wiping, i later got a few bigger clots that i saw around bout size of 50p piece. i did however see clots in the loo at one point that i hadnt felt come out so this could have happened everytime i went to loo but i didnt want to look.

i put a maternity pad on when bleeding got heavier and had this on about 3 hours before changing at which point it still wasnt full. early evening i took more cocodamol for the pain however this time it didnt take it away. i coped tho with hot water bottle and moving around.

finally went to bed at 11.30 took a while to sleep because of pain and woke up at 4.00am to be sick. pain had gone at this point. this morning pain is completely gone and bleeding has lightened.

so i saw / felt no sac and didnt have any huge gushes or urges to push. i could feel blood coming out when i stood up but that was about it. what does anyone think? i will ring epau for their advice today too as im not due anymore scans.

I think you should get checked. It's hard to tell isn't it. When I had med management I was aware of when I passed the sac. But maybe not everyone notices it specifically.
Oh dear. It just goes on and on doesn't it.

im going to see what bleeding is like this morning so i have more info then ring them. i hope it is over would be great if that was it. will see what hospital say though. thank you.

Hope you ok, that you've got through it and hospital can provide reassurance.
We decided that if nothing happens by a week on Monday I will phone the hospital rather than wait until the 18th mainly because of the Christmas holidays DH says there is a possibility they would delay it even longer. I am so fed up of how this is dragging on.
I still have pregnancy symptoms probably due to the large cyst on my ovary still pumping out hormones, add these to the side effects of the mistoprol and I feel truly miserable and on edge that I may be wrong and it might start at anytime.

thanks wonky. im completely fine. bleeding very lightly had a couple more tiny clots but nothing else.

spoke to hospital they couldnt really give any advice said if bleeding has slowed and pain gone probably has happened or might not have worked so no further forward really. have to ring back and speak to one of the sonographers tomorrow to see what they think.

i will feel very lucky if it has happened as i can see it wasnt too bad compared to other peoples experiences. if it hasnt happened am dreading round two especially as something made me sick and i dont fancy repeating that im a terrible sick person

i would push the hospital you dont want it to drag out over christmas if possible. i hope you get somewhere

I would push for a scan ginger. The intensity of my natural mc would have suggested that everything had gone but it hadn't. That's not to say that it won't pass naturally for you but I think you need to know. This uncertainty has gone on too long for you and it's not ok for anyone to expect you to keep on not knowing. Plus the longer it goes on now, the more the risk of infection increases so again, you need to know to consider your options.

thanks guy ill speak to the unit tomorrow and see what they say. definitely dont want any infections or anything just want to get on with trying again tbh.

well it seems my body has recognised that things arent quite done as since about 3.00am i have been having what i assume are contractions.

pleased in a way as really dont want to have to go back to hospital but worried as dp is at work today so will be on my own until after 5. hopefully be ok though.

Tbh sasha what ive been through so far is nothing compared to the stories i have read on here and elsewhere. although the waiting is difficult.

thw worst bit for me so far was probably being sick as i am not good at it at all. the pain was bareable, annoying and did hurt but not horrendous i could cope i wasnt whingeing or crying or anything.

also ive never had a baby so cnt tell if what im having today are contractions, if they are im assuming theyre mild as again the pain is annoying but can breathe through it and a bit of movement helps. get a pain through lower back that feels like everyhing is tensing up, lasts about 10 - 20 seconds then its like it never happened till the next one comes. were minutes apart earlier but seem to be further apart now.

dont worry too much everything will be ok.

Those do sound like contractions Ginger. Good idea to keep moving through them. Just hold on in there, hopefully it will be over soon.

thanks west,ive just spoken to the hospital again and fortunately they think i have mc'd. i am so pleased (didnt ever think id say that) but feels like can now start to look forward.

they said likely to get pains for a few days and just to rest up unless pain unbareable, too much blood, possibility of infection etc. so far so good though on that front.

before i forget a massive thankyou to everyone who has posted and guided me through the worst thing that has ever happened to me. i appreciate every bit of support i have received and wouldnt have got through this without you all. i will keep posting btw and hopefully meet some of you on happier threads in future. thanks ladies

So glad it's finally over for you. Take it easy now.

thank you guy hope you are ok.

thank you sasha.

i hope it goes ok with the hospital all being well scan will be clear but if not medical management is ok. fair enough none of us want to do it but it is a means to an end and until it is dealt with you cant really move on. that was my focus really, i dont know if you intend to try again but i am so.i just kept thinking until its over youre not going to be able to and that helped me deal with the fear a bit better.

Gingerbreadmam - glad you are ok and can begin to move on. Take it easy.
Sasha - hope your ok too.
I'm still waiting, just nausea & feeling grotty, the odd twinge but no bleeding. I'm more hormonal than before and have burst into tears or snapping over the slightest thing but I think the constant waiting is finally grinding me down.

wonky thats understandable this is a long and drawn out thing for you and it now sounds like you have had two unsuccesful attempts to help the process.

have you contacted the hospital? it sounds like it might be the best thing to do as it sounds like is really taking its toll emotionally and youve dealt with so much already.

would you have the erpc or prefer not to? youre allowed to be emotional btw especially in your owm home. if it makes you feel better, let it out when youre on your own. thinking of you at this hard time