is there such a thing as a slow mc?

[gingerbreadmam]

hi. im just wondering if this is a thing. i discovered almost 4 weeks ago at an early scan due to spotting that my baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks. i would have been 13 weeks this thursday.

my hospital have new guidelines where they prefer not to interfere so i have been waiting to mc naturally although nothing is happening like all the mcs i have read about.

i started spotting last wkend, to look at a pad from the top there was barely anything there for a days wear but when turning it over there was more soaked into the pad i would say about 5cm in length but this is all ive had. no pains or none that are memorable, no gushes and no constant bleeding.

had anyone else waited to mc naturally and it been a long process? my epau told me to ring back thursday if nothing has happened and i dont know what to do.

thank you for sharing mcsquigg. i did read up on generals yesterday and it didnt scare me too much. people have them all the time dont they? you have made it sound like the better option too with the blood side of things. as this has already been going on for 4 weeks to endure another 2 - 3 weeks of this at best would just add to the misery.

guess i best ring the hospital and see what they can do. best case scenario is that it happens in the meantime at home. like u i suppose i have been having spotting on and off for over 4 weeks now but nothing else.

just spoken to the hospital, no mention of surgical option but i am going in today to pick the tablets up. didnt realise you can take them at home. kind of feels better even though still scary as f! already feel bit better though knowing the end is in sight. thank you all for sharing your experiences and for your advice.

How are you ginger?

sat in hospital as we speak waiting to sign consent form for the medication. they make it sound completely fine at the hospital it annoys me when i read other people experiences.

glad we came thought got to look at both scan reports and things had actually shrunk by the second scan and should be smaller now too as its 2 weeks on again. im hoping that means i have less to pass.

relieved it will be over soon all being well. how are you doing?

Can I offer a different point of view over why they do it the way they do.
They try to get you to go for the least risky option rather than budget constraints, I know it might feel that way with the constant attacks on NHS budgets but I do believe in this case it's about risk.
I was keen to go down the surgical route to get it over and done with and they were happy to offer me that. But DH steered me away from that as he said as somebody who does surgery (he's a hospital consultant in another specialism) he said that he would always try to not do it as a first resort as going inside people always carries a risk (anaesthetic, damage, infection) He said that he would support whatever choice I wanted but that he would be happier if I tried the medical route first.
I was swayed by him (as he rarely has strong feelings about stuff like this so I knew it mattered to him) and am currently curled up in bed at home with a hot water bottle cursing him through the cramps & vomiting.
I'm just holding on to the fact that this is the beginning of the end, wish it didn't hurt so much tho

thankyou for clearing that up. makes sense really that medical is the next option as it seems the closest to natural that u can get

remember the hospital is there should the pain be too much. i didnt know about sickness or dizziness either just the diaorhhea which ive got medication for apparently. im terrible with sickness

Just to say I'm thinking of you xx

thank u really appreciate it!

Just checking in ginger. Hope you're doing ok.

im ok thanks guy feeling quite relieved that the end is almost in sight. how are you doing?

Hello

Notice this is a few days old... but thought i'd let you know my experience if if it helps you or anyone else reading. You might have had your treatment now...

I had medical management at home, it felt just like a period and wasnt too painful. However, three weeks later I was still getting strong BFP's so went back to EPU to be told I needed an ERPC anyway. I was so upset as I thought i was getting over the worst.

The ERPC was three weeks ago and the procedure itself was fine, I didn't have any pain just lots of bleeding for weeks. Three weeks on though they think I might still have retained tissue so back i go.

Out of the two i'd say the ERPC felt more final, and Im hoping that worked whereas medical management failed.

Both treatments in themeselves I found ok it's been the non stop bleeing and waiting for BFN's after that I'm struggling with.

Hope you're ok. I'd say to anyone going through this that how you respond to treatment will vary compared to others and that unfortunately it can sometimes be a long process.

Hope that helps a bit and that you're ok x

well i discovered at about 3.30pm today the medical management hadnt actually worked as things started happening then that sounded a lot more like everyone elses experiences.

i am still stuck to the loo as we speak. im ok relieved its coming to an end and glad i didnt return to work as i was going to seen as tho my 'experience hadnt been too bad'. stupid flipping hospital. anyway thanks to everyone sharing altho this is completely crap i am not frigtened and it managing ok. thanks.

So sorry to read that you have been through this gingerbread. I'm thinking of you and hope it's soon over.

thank you jupiter means a lot. think things are finally slowing at last.

Holding your hand ginger. Your body is doing exactly what it needs to.

thanks guy, three hours on the loo and the worst is thankfully over. at least i know it definitely happened (no mistaking that!) so i feel relieved now and thankful its not on my mind or not whether it happened or not.

time to look to the future now. thank you ever so much for your kindness and support throughout this whole experience and i hope you are well.

Oh Gingerbreadman I'd hoped you were over the worst of it, I'm sorry that you've had today but at least now your sure. When you feel like you can, snuggle up warm & look after yourself. Thinking of you.

thankyou wonky! resting up on the sofa as we speak and will have an early night.

it does feel good to know. sounds silly but all feels like a bad dream now. hope you are ok. thanks so much for your kindness along the way.