Impending mc - anyone else had similar?

[gingerbreadmam]

I had some spotting over the weekend, it was mostly brown then went off but on wednesday i had a small bleed.

I spoke to epau and had a scan yesterday, had to have internal as was so small. They could see a sac and baby measuring 3mm.

According to online calculators i am 9 weeks pregnant but by my dates i think i could be 6. what showed on the scan could have passed for a 6 week scan from what ive seen online.

The doctor who scanned me implied that it could go either way however the other nurse / doctor in the room intervened and said she did not want to give false hope and that i should book 2 weeks off work and expect to micarry and to cancel my booking in appointment. I am going back in 2 weeks for a follow up scan.

has anybody else experienced similar? they did say the sac was large and they would expect to see a bigger baby with a sac that size but i dont know if theyre basing it all on the fact they think i should be 9 weeks.

any advice appreciated, i am prepared for the worst but until it happens i can hope cant i?

I was unsure of my dates but if I understand it correctly they calculate how many weeks pg you are from the date of first day of your last period, (so you kind of get 2 weeks 'free' as you'd be 2 weeks pregnant already at the day of conception which doesn't make sense but there you go)

I believe if you conceived on 20th Sep then they'd say you should be about 8 weeks pg. They will be able to know quite well a week since your last scan if there's been enough growth. Yes sadly in my case although the baby had stopped growing several weeks before it seemed that it wasn't going anywhere. I don't really understand it all tbh but you'd be best to talk to a professional - I really wouldn't want it if my understanding was wrong in some way & it gave you the wrong idea. Try not to overthink the dates until you get to the next scan, I know its easier said than done but please stay hopeful & try to get some rest before talking to someone tomorrow.

In the words of desiderata 'do not distress yourself with dark imaginings'. 1 in 4 pregnancies approx ends in miscarriage. As I had one a few years ago I thought I was done statistically speaking & thought I'd gotten far enough along that I could almost rest easy.

Good luck for tomorrow x

Thanks greedy, sure i saw you on the antenatal board hope everything is going well.

that is useful info, i did see some horror stories on the board yesterday which im sure are more than a possibility but if i can focus on it happening as textbook if there is such a thing then it will keep the panic at bay.

we have recently moved into our first home together, sounds silly but the bathroom is minute and cold everytime i nip to the loo i kp thinking i hope i dont end up sat here hours although im sure that would be the last thing on my mind should it happen.

yeah its like the 2 weeks extra is a safety net i have been thinking about this in depth and a lot of people go iverdue by x amount of days and i wonder if that is anythinf to do with adding these 2 weeks on. just a thought anyway.

i have been taking it easy and carrying on as if i am still early pregnancy and will continue to do so until my body or re-scan tells me differently. thank you.

So sorry to hear of all the difficult situations and losses. I hope you end up with good news OP, but if you do have to face a miscarriage it may not be as difficult as you fear. I've had a natural miscarriage at 11 weeks. I had a mini labour with contractions and something the size of an aubergine came out, but it wasn't too painful. For the last few contractions I couldn't speak while contracting, but it was only a few minutes and I didn't need pain killers. With my MMC last year I eventually opted for medical management and that was straightforward too with no need for pain killers.
Of course miscarriage is always going to be a horrible experience but it is not inevitably painful or scary.
Stay strong and I hope you end up with good news. You will get through this.

Thankyou fromeast, that is the kind of information that is making this a little easier. I cant believe how common this is it's terrible really.

i hope you have had good news since and your experiences are just said memories now. thank you for taking the time to share your experience it does help.

I'm sorry you're going through this. The limbo is the worst, the waiting and the not knowing. I had 8 days of it with my MC. Just to say, when it came it was just like a very heavy period. There were some clots but in terms of pain, it was nothing too bad at all. I just took paracetamol. I was 7 weeks pregnant.
There is always hope though. Just be kind to yourself and take it easy.

And in terms of good news, I fell pregnant on my next cycle and my little rainbow baby is now 9 months old.

The way a pregnancy is dated from your last period, assuming a 28 day cycle, means on the day you ovulate and conceive you are '2 weeks pregnant'. I know that's ridiculous but it's because unless couples were TTC they may have no idea about ovulation dates.

I've had 4 MC at 8-10 weeks and they have been nothing like a period. I never had the option of ERPC because I MC fairly quickly after the baby died (not a MMC) before ERPC could be scheduled, but given the option I'd choose surgery.

It's amazing how different experiences can be. I remember you helped me a lot when I suffered my mc bakingtins. I was very 'lucky' with my experience, physically.

In terms of good news I also fell pregnant again in the next cycle after my natural miscarriage. The resulting DD is now age 11.
At the moment I am expecting to start a miscarriage again, and am waiting in the hope it will kick off naturally. I am not afraid as I don't think the pregnancy made it past the six week mark. It's a test of patience though.

Its funnys isnt it because scan wise that 2 weeks can make a huge difference to what they can see.

i guess thats why they call it inconclusive as it really is that. if i am going to miscarry by my calculations it stopped growing at about 6 weeks so hopefully i will get the period type experience.

i'm so sorry your experence was not like that baking tins. pleased about everyones little miracles though, didnt realise it could happen so quickly. that is something to hold onto i guess!

thank you all again i appreciate it is difficult. i hope you are coping east and being kind to yourself.

Yes, well sometimes I get moments of impatience but I'm trying to be rational about it now. If it's gone it's gone and nothing will bring it back to life. Tomorrow is a new day and all that. Best wishes to all.

that's all you can think isn't it? hard times. well thinking of you and fingers crossed as long as it's still around there's still hope.

There's always hope. The vast majority of women who MC have a successful pregnancy next time. Even for the 1% who have recurrent losses most can have a baby with treatment. I had a daughter this summer, completing my family.

congratulations baking! glad your family is now complete thats great news.

Figures sound promising too, thank you.

Congratulations baking. I had my daughter in January and so now have one of each.

same to you too carmella thats amazing news!

Thank you
Hope you're ok OP.

i'm fine thank you. still nothing going on so still a tiny bit of hope.

tbh everyones kind responses on this post have made me feel much better so am in a better place all together today.

glad i posted. thanks again.

Hey ginger, just checking in to say thinking of you & hope you're ok x

thankyou evelyn really appreciated. still in the same situation.

finally braved ringing the epau back today didnt get much more info although more accurate measurement of baby which was 3.4mm and could be normal for 6 weeks pregnant however the sac is 4cm which from google is more consistant with a 9 week pregnancy if i have worked it out right.

i suppose a miracle could still happen which is why they offer a rescan but appreciate its not looking good.

need to weigh up my options for thursday now. i dont know if i could wait it out if it is bad news.

Just wanted to say I am in the same situation. Scan today after spotting shows 6 weeks. Should be 9 weeks. For me I am sure it isn't viable because if I was only 6 weeks, I got a bfp a week before conception.
I am not bleeding or cramping so just waiting for it to start. If anyone can tell me what to expect, I'd really appreciate it. What happens if it doesn't start on its own?
Sorry you're going through this too.

guy if nothing happens by the time of your follow up scan you should be offered a choice of 'expectant' management (waiting unspecified time for natural miscarriage) medical management (combination of tablets and pessaries to induce a miscarriage) or surgical management (often referred to as ERPC) There are experiences of each on the "tips for coping" thread and more info on the miscarriage association website. I'm sorry you are in the position of needing to research this.

guy i'm so sorry it's such a terrible experience and situation to be in.

bakings advice is good. in short from what i have seen on the board 'a heavy period' is a nice way of putting it however it seems some people do experience that and no cramping.

The more common stories are start off spotting, get cramps even sometimes something similar to contractions at which point you may start passing clots and find it easier to be on the toilet for this part. this can last any amount of time from 1 hour to say about 4. when you have passed he largest of the clots you should then be ok with pads maybe for around a week or so.

there are some horror stories on there which scared me tbh although i think it is good to be prepared for the worst. you could take a look for yourself if you like or i can relay some of the stuff here.

one thing the dr told me is that paracetamol should help with the pain which can be the case but some people find they need something stronger.

just to reitterate i havent been through this yet just what i have picked up from the boards. were you advised to take any time off?