How to send congratulations for second child after late miscarriage of first child

[Dowahdiddydiddydumdiddydo]

Throwing myself on the wisdom of MN, and this seemed the best place to ask advice.

A friend of mine had a miscarriage at about 33 weeks two years ago, a little boy. Absolutely devastating for her and her partner. She talks about him often, and he is very much an acknowledged part of life.

She gave birth today to a daughter, and I want to send her a card to say congratulations, and I would like to mention her son in the card. Do you think that would be okay? I don't want to not mention him because then I feel I'm glossing over his existence and treating her daughter like she is her first child.

Thoughts please?

[Dowahdiddydiddydumdiddydo]

I'm so sorry about your son, Babyh200, and thank you for adding your thoughts.

[Hakluyt]

I haven't read the thread,sorry, but if you know the name of their first baby, I would use it. I wrote something like " A huge welcome to Mary and love to you all, and never forgetting her big brother John" in a card in similar circumstances.

[Hakluyt]

And I wouldn't use rainbow or angel baby unless you are sure she uses the words herself. I know they are a comfort to many- but equally not to others.

[Dowahdiddydiddydumdiddydo]

Thanks Hakluyt. I do know the name of their first baby, so will use something like what you have put. I don't know if she uses rainbow or angel baby, so agree probably best to avoid in this instance.