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babyangelbean20315 · 29/10/2014 08:57

Is there anyone else in Bristol on here who is going through this ?? I need to talk to people and there is only one group on Bristol once a month which is ridiculous j need to talk now ?!

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Flower29 · 29/10/2014 09:27

I've just posted onto your other thread and forgot to say, what about seeing a counsellor privately until you can see one through your GP/EPU (my EPU offered counselling but there were no free appointments til December), I'm seeing one which charges £35 an hour (up in sheffield) so would have thought there would be similar prices in Bristol. Also if you happen to have private medical through work this may be covered. I used this to search for one www.counselling-directory.org.uk/adv-search.php. I know it can be pricey but might really help having a couple of sessions to offload everything. Take care xxx

bakingtins · 29/10/2014 15:54

One of my friends was involved with the Alma road group which I assume is the one you mean, they meet first Tuesday of the month so there should be one next week. Try to go along, you may well meet other women going through it at the moment that you can then chat to outside the group.
My other thought is what about the hospital chaplain? The Southmead one was really great with me after my first MC when I ended up in hospital (all a bit medically as well as emotionally traumatic) and encouraged me to write something for the service and their book of remembrance. They are probably more accustomed to dealing with pregnancy loss than your average clergy and they will try to help whether you have any faith or none.
Keep posting, I wrote reams at the time but it does help, bottling it up is not a good strategy.

ksgm · 11/11/2014 11:43

I am in Bristol and I think currently having a m/c. Went to St Michael's Sunday and yesterday following bleeding and they did trans/v scans and found the baby is not developing as it should be - really slow heartbeat and small. So incredibly sad. Have to go back next Tuesday so they can scan again but meanwhile I am still bleeding. Agonising just waiting :-(

bakingtins · 11/11/2014 18:39

Sorry to hear that ksgm being in limbo is just awful. I've been in the situation several times where baby has a HB but is too small and the pregnancy is obviously failing, it feels horrible to be waiting for it to be over. Sad Thinking of you.

ksgm · 12/11/2014 09:25

Thanks bakingtins - sadly I lost the little one last night after awful pain in the afternoon. Still a bit crampy today. So sorry to hear you have been through this several times, can't even imagine going through it again and part of me is scared to try again but so want to have a baby!

bakingtins · 12/11/2014 09:54

Flowers ksgm don't let my experience put you off - the vast majority of women who suffer a miscarriage have a successful pregnancy next time, your chances of a good outcome are 85%, exactly the same as in your first pregnancy. It's only about 1% of couples that have recurrent miscarriages and there is plenty of hope for them with the right treatment - I had a daughter this summer after 4 losses.
Treat yourself very kindly over the next days and weeks, it's a massive thing to come to terms with.

ksgm · 12/11/2014 10:45

Thank you bakingtins, so pleased that you finally got the baby you so wanted but it must have been so heart-breaking to go through that so many times. You must have become very strong.

It's a strange feeling. We were quite careful not to get too excited in the first 12 weeks and it didn't seem that real being so early on but I thought that it would become real and even though I knew there was a risk of miscarriage and reminded myself of this all the time, I don't think I ever really thought that it would happen. It's comforting that you and so many others have 'survived' it.

Mrsm14 · 12/11/2014 10:45

I am also in Bristol and have been along to the support group, so let me know if you have any questions about it xx

ksgm · 13/11/2014 07:57

Thank you Mrsm14, that's really kind of you. I think I am going to try to get through with the support of friends but think if I have another loss in the future I may need something more as I know personally very few people who have been through it. x

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babyangelbean20315 · 18/11/2014 08:28

Mrsm Isit quite open ? I wanna talk about my baby not anything else and I've heard a lot of people jus go there n talk about life n not the loss ? Ksgm. I'm sorry for your loss the worst feeling is when they say something's not right with heartbeats
I'm really strugglinh, if either of u fancy meeting up for a chat let me know , me n my friend were going to release some balloons for ours

I just hate feeling alone - my partner finds it a lot easier than me I guess physically I felt it all and he didn't

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ksgm · 21/11/2014 23:39

So sorry you're struggling babyangelbean - hope you're looking after yourself. Where in Bristol are you? The balloons idea sounds lovely. I have just bought a charm for my bracelet to remember the little one by.

FishWithABicycle · 21/11/2014 23:53

So sorry for your loss.
This isn't m/c specific but Network Counselling, not far from Cribbs Causeway, might be able to help you deal with the emotional impact of what you are going through. They were amazing when I was going through hell a few years ago.

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babyangelbean20315 · 24/11/2014 08:21

I'm in like central Bristol really. St George .
I like ur charm thing, I've been looking online at the bracelets u can get and was thinking I'll buy myself one for Xmas

Thanks fish anything is worth a try I jus wanna go back to normal the feeling of loss is just Soo much to deal with my head doesn't know what to do

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Mrsm14 · 28/11/2014 08:00

I would recommend trying the group. It should be on next week and it made me feel normal about my grief if that makes sense. I found people very open and it's only small - maybe 4 or 5 people. I'd also recommend counselling if you're struggling as I have found that a huge help. I don't have any friends who have gone through this, so I found it an incredibly lonely time, especially since my only real friend here got pregnant the week after my miscarriage. Reach out and take all the help you need and try to be patient with yourself. I'm 5 months on and feel much better, but still get upset and feel sad about it. Good luck x

littlefig01 · 01/12/2014 18:39

I am shocked also that there is only one support group in Bristol to and only once a month. I was told i had a mc on 17th November, I don't know where my emotions are at present. It's like I'm keeping myself busy instead of grieving. I've always been the type of person to think of others, I know I want to grieve I just don't know how to let my feelings out. I wish there were more frequent groups especially in south Bristol. Just like babyangelbean I need to talk now. Councelling just isn't the same as meeting up with people in the same boat.

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babyangelbean20315 · 02/12/2014 11:36

Fig what part of Bristol are you from ? Are you planning on going to alma today?

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littlefig01 · 02/12/2014 15:40

I'm in south bristol, near the wells road. I understand your in st george babyangelbean, so not that far away from me. I am planning on going tonight, I know it's only once a month but anything that can help is greatly appreciated plus meeting others in the same postion I hope will help. I feel bad saying this as I wish i was meeting new people under better circumstances. Have you been to the group yet ? Are you going tonight ?

Mrsm14 · 06/12/2014 12:41

How did you get on? Did you manage to go to the group?

littlefig01 · 07/01/2015 20:11

It was ok, not many there. Was hoping that people that recently had a miscarriage would be there but there wasn't. Also hoped babyangelbean would be there. Not sure if I will go again. Wished I could talk to people who have gone through the same.

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babyangelbean20315 · 08/01/2015 12:42

Little fig I'm sorry I wasn't there if u do go next month tell me n I Will come, I came back to work this week and is killing me everyone. Is pregnant and the lady with my due date is jus gettin bigger n bigger I can't take it

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littlefig01 · 08/01/2015 18:27

Hi babyangelbean, I've not long gone back to work. It's hard especially because none of my work colleagues knew only my boss who is in a different office. It's right what the epc said everywhere you turn you either see babies, people are pregnant or people are talking about babies. It's so hard to block it out. It's like its in your face all the time. Wasn't sure of going to the group again but if you do then I will it would be nice to talk to someone who been going through this at a similar time. The church is more on st johns road which is just off alma road, I found it difficult to find as you think its the big church at the end of alma road but its not. Once you find it your remember for next time. You can park in the church carpark. Let me know nearer the time if you going. Keep being strong, thinking of you. Hopefully see you in a few weeks.

littlefig01 · 01/02/2015 21:16

Hi babyangelbean, are you going to go to the meeting on Tuesday ?

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babyangelbean20315 · 02/02/2015 08:47

I was thinking I might this week I have councillor tomorrow though so don't know if that will be enough crying for me for one day! R u planning on going ?

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littlefig01 · 02/02/2015 18:00

Yeah, I was going to go. I also have the councillor tomorrow so thought it might do me good to go to the group as well. It might help you a little if you come, it's nice to be around people who have had the same experiences, you don't have to feel as alone.

sarkymare · 03/02/2015 16:50

Where is this group?

I had a MMC in December and I'm having what I think is a chemical pregnancy now. I think I need to talk to somebody about it all as it is getting too much. I'm sick of feeling sad.

I live in yate BTW.