About to have a Medical Managed Miscarriage and pretty scared!

[Noodles78]

Hello everyone.

I went for my 12 week scan yesterday to be told that the heart had stopped beating just a few days before.

I was offered the option of surgery, medical management or waiting for nature to take its course. After listening to all of the risks I have chosen the medical management route. I have a huge fear of general anesthetic. The consultant agreed with my choice, not sure why...maybe the size?

Now I've started reading about others experiences on here and it's terrified me. I'm starting to think I should have chosen the surgery.

I know it's good to go in expecting the worse but m so nervous now :0(

Xxx

So sorry for your loss Noodles, I had medical management on Monday. It was a tough day but not horrific. The worst bit is found was the waiting. Have you got someone to go with you? I've pm'd you too x

Hi noodles,
I had mm 4 weeks ago after a mmc (found out at 11+5 weeks our baby had died around 3 weeks earlier). I too read a lot of horror stories but also some that weren't as bad.

In my case I was given pessaries at about 10.30am, felt cramp pains and started spotting within about 10 mins. The bleeding started as normal period and remained for several hours until I passed the baby (in the sac) at about 5pm. The cramps leading up to this became more intense and I had codeine but not sure if it made much difference.

As soon as the baby passed the cramps seemed to almost disappear suddenly. I then had very heavy bleeding and passed loads of clots, one or two nearly the size of my palm. I think this happened because the placenta broke up into pieces, I think if you passed this complete in one piece the bleeding would be much more like a period (but that's just my op). I was kept in overnight due to the bleeding and when I went home the next day I was down to maternity pads (had to wear nappy style ones whilst in hosp) and a day or so later normal sanitary pads.

Emotionally it was awful waiting for the baby to pass, almost surreal. My husband was with me and we played games on the ipad to pass the time. Once I had passed the baby I felt so much relief, I was much less concerned about everything else that followed, it was only the baby that mattered.
Since then I have been bleeding light to med period with the odd clot and tissue in between. I had a heavy bleed last fri and phoned EPU but it settled within an hour so I stayed at home. I went for a scan this week and they said it was all clear just thick lining, they also said it looked like I was starting to ovulate (saw a dominant follicle). I am still bleeding today although it is more pinky as it is mixed with a lot of discharge. Over the past few weeks it has been hard when it seems to be settling and then the bleeding starts again, although I think this is quite unusual and for most people it settles within 2 weeks.
One of the reasons why I chose mm is because I didn't want to risk any damage by having the op, i didn't want to wait for it to happen as it had already been 3 weeks and only had slight spotting, I wanted it to happen at hospital as I didn't want to see the baby and I also felt it was right for me to pass my baby this way, in a natural manner.
If I had the choice again I would still go for mm, I just wish I had known more about the bleeding afterwards and how long it could go on for. I felt I was relatively prepared for the first bit in hospital.
I'm so sorry that you are in these circumstances and that you have to go through this awful experience. I hope my (very) long post is of some use to you. Take care.
Xxx