Disclaimer: I know people are just trying to help and it must be difficult to know what to say, but my fifth successive miscarriage started yesterday and I'm fragile and angry and need to vent.
"At least it's happened very early this time"
OK, so it is going to be more straight forward and less physically painful this time, but this is my fifth in quick succession and with each one a little more of my hope reserves drip away. The emotional pain of the loss increases with each one.
"At least you get pregnant really easily. That's good isn't it?"
Seriously? Oh yes, it's brilliant. I feel truly blessed to have gone through five miscarriages (and don't forget the five sets of morning sickness) in less than a year. I can't remember the last time I felt well, but you're right, I'm so lucky, thanks for reminding me.
"But you have your DS and he's so lovely. If you never have another would that really be so bad?"
Oh great, now I feel guilty for not being satisfied with what I have. My desire for another child is in no way a comment on my DS not being good enough. He's wonderful, I adore him utterly and feel very lucky to have him, but he loves babies and I happen to think he'd make an awesome big brother.
"Chin up"/"Onwards and upwards"/"Worse things happen at sea"/"Just keep trying, you'll get there"/ (and my personal favourite) "Try not to worry"
Oh do fuck off.
What's wrong with a hug?