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missed miscarriage...what happens next?

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blueamema · 28/09/2006 10:40

Found out had missed miscarriage yesterday at dating scan! (14 wks) as no heartbeat was present and 'bump' was a little small. Thought I would feel okay/better today but am just felling confused and tearful?!? as doctor at hosp said to go home and wait to miscarry/ or have an appointment to go back in 2 wks if havent to discuss other methods??

Have been looking at some other threads and am now worrying that I dont have a clue whats going on!! and am feeling a little confused as to how they can let you go home with dead 'bump' in belly for 2 wks!!!

What is a D&C? and/or ERPC? what do they stand for??

Where can I get some information from about missed miscarriages??

And what happens if I miscarry naturally? Do I need to let the hosp know or just still go in 2 wks to be checked out?

Any advice would be muchly appreciated!
blueamema

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foundintranslation · 07/10/2006 22:48

blue - it will happen eventually. However, if you are feeling you would rather have it over with (and I really don't think I could have waited 2 weeks with mine), I would go back, sooner than Weds, and ask directly for an ERPC.

Evenhope, wishing you a lovely pregnancy.

MrsFish · 08/10/2006 11:37

Bluemama

I can not beleive they have made you wait so long, that is just a horrible amount of time to be waiting when you know there is no hope. I actually find it incredibly cruel that they are making you wait. I would go back and demand that they do something, surely they can not refuse?

I hope something happens soon either way, and I will definitely post back and tell you how it all goes tomorrow. I keep expecting it to start naturally before I get there as I have been experiencing a light period for the past few hours now, just keeping my fingers crossed that I can hold out till tommorrow.

My thoughts are with you x

pinkranger · 08/10/2006 11:46

Hi blue, i had a missed Miscarrage in August , i was 10 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, they offered my all options and i decied to go for the ERPc as i knew it was over and couldnt bear still to be carrying. i had my ERPC the next day and i am so glad i did. i cant belive your hospitail has made you wait! that is so awful i agree that the grief will hit you at sometimes but that is natural, only this morning i was over come with sadness as my 4yr old was being his normal " not listen to Mummy " self!! and i broke down on the bathroom floor ....... it will get easier. ( i do tend to drink to much wine now!!! )

My thoughts are with you and good Luck

To all the other ladies and am so sorry for you losses, i do know had hard it is xxxxxxx

Thinking of you all

mostlymay · 08/10/2006 12:03

Hi ,I found out yesterday at a scan that my baby had stopped developing at 5 weeks, I am now 9 weeks and just confused. It was my first pregnancy and I had very bad morning sickness, tender breats etc and had no idea that it had happened. My doctor has booked me in for an evacuation procedure on Monday, he said I could wait and let nature take it's course ,but couldn't say how long that would take as I am showing no signs of miscarrying naturally. I am very sad and confused but reading the threads on here has helped put my mind at rest a bit. Good luck to everyone. xxx

MrsFish · 08/10/2006 20:09

Hi there

I am in for mine tomorrow too, I'll be thinking of you xx

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blueamema · 08/10/2006 21:09

mostlymay... so sorry to hear you are also going through this X
...and I'm glad you have put your mind at rest a little, as I have, from reading some of the threads on m/n.

Hope it all goes well on monday.

Am going to phone QMC Hosp tomorrow to share my concerns again!! and hopefully get things moving before wednesday.
How funny that my hospital is live on TV tonight showing how amazing child birth can be! when I had one V.horrible experience 13mths ago and am now going through this silly m/c thing!!!!

But many of my friends have had very very good experiences there... just in case anyone reading this is also at QMC!!

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foundintranslation · 08/10/2006 21:20

Mostlymay and MrsFish, I too will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Juicylucythe2nd · 09/10/2006 11:40

Mrs Fish and Mostlymay - hope it went ok today.

Bluamema - hope you managed to get seen sooner and sort out something.

Thinking of you all today

pinkranger · 09/10/2006 11:40

thinking of you both today xx
I hope it is as easy as it can be for you x

mostlymay · 09/10/2006 20:31

Just to let you all know the ERPC went really well today. I was so scared but the staff were amazing, my consultant a star and I felt very cared for and safe . Consultant said there should be no problems with future pregnancies as op was successful which is all I wanted to hear. I am home now and feeling tired but so relieved it is over. I hope Mrs Fish yours was as smooth. Thank -you all for your support and for me this was definately the best option.
My heart goes out to anyone who has this to go through but it really is over quickly and safely. god bless ladies xxxx

MrsFish · 10/10/2006 11:02

Hello everyone

Everything went very smoothly, a big thumbsup to the NHS, everyone was so kind and sympathetic, I too felt cared for, at no time did I feel scared or nervous. The only problems I had was that it took 3 attempts to get the needle thing into my hand so I am a bit bruised. Also under my chin around the jawline also feels bruised? but no soreness whatsoever down below.

I went in at 10am, I was out at 5.30, was blinkin starving by the time I got home

It is definitely the way to go, not that I want to through it again mind you, fingers crossed.

MrsFish · 10/10/2006 11:03

Blueamema - any news from the doctors?

Hope you are ok xx

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blueamema · 10/10/2006 13:30

It all started to happen naturally yesterday morning! still phoned hosp to let them know i was still unhappy with the situation and to ask what happens now? they said to see how things go as its all happening on its own and to go in tomorrow for another scan to see how things have come out!!

In a lot of pain today! and feel like im getting flu?? feeling rather miserable generally actually but im sure it will pass soon. my mum is coming over this aft to take dd out! and im off to bed.

but cheered me up to hear you guys were okay yesterday and are feeling much better X

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Juicylucythe2nd · 10/10/2006 16:30

Blueamema, hope the pain is over soon. Poor you.

foundintranslation · 10/10/2006 16:39

mostlymay and MrsF, glad you had 'good' (not the right term but ykwim) experiences with your ERPCs. I found both mine to be 'good' experiences too.

blueamema, I'm thinking of you. If you feel you do want an ERPC then I would insist on it tomorrow.

mostlymay · 10/10/2006 17:38

Bluemama just FYI I had flu like symptoms for a week before my ERPC and when they checked my temp yesterday in hosptial it was very high. Today it's normal as apparently (sorry ready for TMI!) the 'flu' symptoms were poisons from the foetus kicking into my blood stream as it reabsorbed into my body.. Sorry very yucky I know but again it is now a warning sign I will watch for next time. If you're still feeling like this tomorrow I agreed you need to call and insist on an ERPC. I am amazed at how quickly I am feeling normal again... well physically anyway.

Good luck and I hope this is over for you soon. xxx

MrsFish · 10/10/2006 21:18

Blueamema - Sorry to hear that, I hope you are feeling better soon, all my thoughts are with you xx

MrsFish · 10/10/2006 21:23

Mostlymay

That is odd about the flu like symptoms, as I have just got over a very bad cold which I would have had two weeks tomorrow. Co-incidence?

Anyways, I feel much better today, onwards and upwards.

Hope everyone else feels better soon xx

duchesse · 18/10/2006 12:45

Hi all, I don't know if it's hospital policy or because I'm rhesus negative and about to go away for half-term, or even because my dead foetus is quite large at 12 weeks 3 days (I should be 13 weeks today, so it died last week some time), ,but I was strongly recommended a managed miscarriage, which is happening later today, the day after we found out. They'd tacked me onto the end of the list, so I might be pushed aside by an emergency, (I hope not), but all being well, I should be done by this evening.

I opted for surgical, although natural would have been my preferred option, because I need to have anti-d for the rhesus incompatibility within the 5 days after I stop bleeding, whch might have happened in the middle of Italy next week or the week after, if I'd opted for watchful waiting.

Maybe they thought you were about to miscarry naturally anyway, Blue, and thought it the best option for you (given the slight risks involved with general aneasthetic and procedure) but I do think they should have given you the choice.

muckers · 18/10/2006 13:20

hi, just reading some of the previous messages about ERPC, I'm going in tomorrow for one after finding out this morning that I have a missed miscarriage at 9+6 weeks. Had another miscarriage in February which ended naturally, but getting cycle back to normal was a mare, bled for all of March (bar 3 days)and then had to take tablets for 3 weeks to sort out hormones, so I'm hoping this way will be quicker.
The staff at the hospital this morning were fantastic and very sympathetic/supportive, hopefully they will be the same tomorrow, I'm not worried about the procedure, just the awful sickness/vomitting I get after a general anethestic.
Muckers

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blueamema · 18/10/2006 21:59

duchesse... enjoy Italy, sounds like you will need the break! Italy is fantastic and beautiful.

Been a while since I've read the thread! went to hospital for 2nd scan,last wednesday where they informed me again that fetus had no heartbeat. So arranged to have ERPC day after as I had had enough of waiting (as explained above).
But just after signing all the forms etc ... walked down the corridor with the intention of going home, passed out! got carried back into EPAC and immediately started to m/c naturally!!! Having bad pains (labour pains!) for about 2 hours. Not a very nice experience all in all and would much have preferred to be at home with my own comforts/toilet!

But staff were really supportive and at least I didnt have to have ERPC in the end. (even though I had to wait over 2 wks to m/c naturally!!)
Had a word with doc as to why it should take so long to come out!... should have been 16wks/but measured/died at 7??!! but they just said sometimes it takes time? all to do with hormones i think?
Not bleed to much really considering what others have said. just didn't really enjoy seeing what had to come out!!!!!

...muckers, sorry to hear about m/c in feb and again! hope it all goes well for you.

Just glad its over now... thanks again for all your kind words/support over the past weeks X

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muckers · 19/10/2006 20:42

hi, Thanks for the message blueamema, the ERPC went very well this morning, went in at 7.45am and was home before 1pm, no sickness or feeling ill, infact was up a ladder decorating for most of the afternoon!!! Obviously feeling sad but in some way glad it's over and I can move forward. Hardly any bleeding and I'm glad I chose to have the ERPC rather than wait for it to happen naturally. The hospital staff were fantastic, just as they were yesterday when I had the scan. Hope your feeling better after your loss recently. Take Care,
Muckers

duchesse · 20/10/2006 16:29

2 days on, my hormone levels are plummetting and i'm not feeling so positive. I guess this is normal.

MrsFish · 20/10/2006 19:34

I had an ERPC almost two weeks ago, was feeling quite positive about it all but have slipped into a depression this afternoon, holding back tears as I type, have been bleeding on and off since tuesday again, about a week after the initial bit of bleeding after the op. Not sure whether this would be classed as a period or not?

I guess that crashing of hormones has happened.

mostlymay · 20/10/2006 22:20

Hey Mrs Fish, not that it will make you feel any better but me too. Was doing so well now feel like shit.. I think I was being really narrow minded thinking that I could get over this so easily.. It's a real bastard how to creeps up on you unexpectedly. My bleeding has returned also and not sure if it's a period or not but it would explain the hormone crash I guess.. I just want to feel positive and move on if that's possible.. and also not begrudge a friend who I have found out is pregnant and doing well.. God that sounds awful doesn't it? Sorry but this week nearly two weeks on from ERPC is really hard. Hope others feel more positive.. sorry