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Miscarried but didn't know I was pregnant

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Unicorndog · 27/09/2014 16:33

Hi all,
I am so sorry to read everyone's stories and I feel almost bad even writing on here as I didn't even know I was pregnant. But on Monday I had a miscarriage and while I'm not mourning the loss of a pregnancy as such, I'm feeling a bit empty. I don't really know how to feel.
I'm sad because I made a baby and I feel like it's directly my fault that it has died, obviously I didn't know I was pregnant so I've been living as normal. (I miscarried a week after my 21st birthday) my family have been very supportive, but at the same time, I'm from a family where lots of bad stuff has happened so sympathy is only dished out in small doses.
I'm not looking for people to feel really sorry for me because I know miscarriage is common, but personally I'm trying to deal with the fact that I was pregnant and now I'm not all in the space of a few days. I just feel lost really, I have so many questions, and the more I think about it all the sadder I get. But then I feel bad not thinking about it.
I know I'm young and everything will be fine but as a woman I've planned what I imagine my kids will be like and thinking about it really puts me out. Which child would that have been? If I'd have looked after myself better could it have lived? Was it nature taking course or did I cause it to die?

Oh well I guess

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NeopreneMermaid · 27/09/2014 17:08

I've been there too. It's weird because you've lost something you didn't know you had. I was very upset.

vicki2122 · 28/09/2014 08:32

We have all been there by the sounds of it i miscarried nearly a year ago and it's upsetting still even now

thesmallbear · 28/09/2014 12:07

Hi OP, I am sorry for your loss. Yes, MC is very common but that doesn't make it any less heartbreaking, whether you knew about it or not. Please know that your lifestyle is unlikely to have caused the miscarriage - most are caused due to chromosomal problems with the baby. Look after yourself Flowers

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