How do I get through tomorrow?

[Doingthingsdifferently]

On Wednesday I had manual vacuum aspiration (mva) after finding out I had miscarried at 9 weeks. I think I am still in shock, I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it (have told two friends who have been lovely but have their own lives) mainly I guess as I am quite a private person and my husband doesn't seen very bothered at all. He has been nice but is more focused on when we can try again (we had been trying for what would have been dc2 for quite a while).

I wasn't expecting to feel so ill afterwards, the cramps have been horrible and I just feel so physically weak, I have been back at work for two days but have just felt so ill. I really just want to retreat into a hole but it is BILs wedding tomorrow and I have to go (complete with toddler), I am so worried that someone will ask about babies and I will just cry.

I am not sure what I am asking really, just wanted to vent. I guess any help on how to have a positive day tomorrow and any experience from anyone who has had a Mva on how long it took to feel normal again would be really appreciated.

Thank you.

So sorry you lost your baby doing it sounds like you underestimated what a big deal it is. I think you should get yourself signed off work for at least a week, hole up in bed with a large bar of chocolate. You are allowed to need time to recover physically and to grieve in peace. I haven't had MVA but have had natural and medically managed miscarriages at a similar stage and needed a week before I could face the world. Is going to just the ceremony an option tomorrow and letting DH represent you at the reception, that way you avoid any awkward questions? For anyone other than close family I'd say don't go at all.

Sending you a hug, you sound like you need a good cuddle xxx