First M/MC with questions..

[KaitlinH]

I recently found out that I had a missed miscarriage. I should have been about 12 weeks when we discovered the loss, but the baby was measuring at 8 & 1/2 with no heartbeat. I don't know what to do, as I had had 3 healthy pregnancies in the past with no abnormal pregnancies. I have been trying to let the baby pass naturally, but I'm not sure how this is supposed to happen. There was a loss in our family, my toddler son, Toby - 2.5 yrs old, was in an accident and did not survive. The loss of the baby would have been two weeks or so before the loss my son, so I don't attribute it to the stress. However, with the loss of my son I was not in the right mind to ask my OB/GYN any questions on what I might experience with this M/MC. I've had bleeding and pain that mirrors labor but have not passed what I would recognize as a "sack". I am unsure what to expect. I do have an appointment with my OB again to discuss what might come next, but I would like to hear from other M/MC mothers who have been through this awful experience. Thank you and I am sorry for your losses.

kaitlin I am so sorry to hear what a terrible time you've had. MMC is a cruel thing anyway but to happen so close to the loss of your son is beyond awful.
I've had 4 MC at the 8-10 week stage and only once recognised the sac, and only because I was trying to catch it for pathology, so it's possible that you have passed it unrecognised. Generally the bleeding/ cramps build up until the sac is passed then settle down to something more like a period and tail off over 7-10 days. If your bleeding is gradually subsiding you may be through the worst of it. Your ob-gyn should perform a follow up scan to ensure your uterus is empty. If not, you have the options of medical or surgical management to complete the process. A pregnancy test is likely to remain positive as it takes a while for hormone levels to fall to zero.
I really hope the physical process is over for you soon so you can be free to grieve for your losses.

Hi Kaitlin - I'm also so sorry to hear what a terrible time you've been having recently. I'm in a similar situation to you and have had 2 healthy pregnancies and have just been told I've had my first M/MC. I should have been about 10 weeks but the baby was only measuring 6.5weeks last week with no heartbeat. I am devastated but not totally surprised as I somehow felt from early on that something wasn't right. I started to bleed like a heavy period last Thursday after my scan confirming M/MC and then by Friday I was having pains that I can only describe like labour. I passed the sack (I think) on Sunday night and rescued it from the toilet which I'd lined with toilet paper. It was about the size of a satsuma and round in shape. I'm going plant it under a cherry blossom when I can get myself to a garden centre to remember my little baby. I am still bleeding like a heavy period and have some clots too but the labour pain only lasted one day and then reduced to light cramps. I go tomorrow to the Emergency Gynae clinic to get checked out and have no clue what to expect. I guess they will check Im totally cleared out and if not will help me medically. Ive been lucky that Ive had a lot of support from family and friends (who had guessed I was preggers again) and it has definitely helped me to get through this. I've read quite a bit on here too and spoken to my GP and the Emergency Gynae ward when Ive had questions. Don't be afraid to ask people what to expect. I've found that the information is not very forthcoming unless you go asking for it which is a shame. Keep in touch and all the best to you and your family x