Constantly thinking I'm going to miscarry. Can't get it out my head.

[Olive1987]

Hi. I've posted a lot lately I'm pregnant again after 2 consecutive miscarriages. I've read today that my chances of another miscarriage are a lot higher!
I keep researching miscarriage and I just can't get it out my head that I'm going to loose this one.
I constantly check my knickers and when ever I feel pain I'm convinced I'm about to start bleeding.
I miscarried both previous pregnancies at exactly 6+3.
If I was to date this pregnancy from the first day I started bleeding then 6+3 is this Thursday.
I'm convinced I'm going to miscarry it's consuming me and I'm so scared.
My boobs don't hurt this time and I don't really feel pregnant. Just a bit extra hungry.
I don't really know why I'm writing this, just got to get it out there. I feel like I can't tell dp about it because it'll upset him.

Hi olive. Firstly, congratulations. Today you are pregnant and that is to be celebrated.

It is unlikely you will ever 'enjoy' a pregnancy after a miscarriage - you know first hand what can go wrong and you will naturally worry about that. I'm not sure that will even end. But if you aren't having pains or bleeding then try to rationalise to yourself that you are probably fine. Statistics say you are marginally more likely to miscarry but the bigger stat says you won't. You are more likely to progress with a successful pregnancy than not, even though it can't be guaranteed.

And step away from google - it's not a nice place! (I find that particular tip tough myself). Good luck!

Thank you for answering. Google is not my friend, I will try to steer clear.

I don't agree that your chances of a third MC are 'a lot higher'. Off the top of my head I don't know the stats for after 2MC, but I do know after 3 it's a 30% risk, compared to 15% for all pregnancies. So your chances of success are better than 70%. Understandable to be anxious though. There are lovely threads over on the pregnancy board for pg after MC, where everyone will understand your worries. They supported me through recent pregnancy after 4 MC and kept me nearly sane.
Hope it goes really smoothly for you

When you feel ready, hope over to the PG after MC thread. There are many of us who has suffered multiple MC and went on to carry another to full term. I had one DD, then 1 MC at 6/7 weeks, another MMC at 12 week scan, and then now I'm at 39 weeks. It can happen like bakingtins says. It's very hard to feel safe and I didn't start to believe it until after the 20 week scan this time round. And even till very very late (maybe 30ish weeks) I keep thinking that something is going to go wrong.