Miscarriage number 3

[FizzyPinkWine]

This time last week I was just on the way back from the EPU after being told I was most likely miscarrying. I miscarried that night.
This is my third miscarriage in a year. I don't know how I feel.
The doctor signed me off work for last week, I'm supposed to be back into school on Monday. It will be stressful and I don't want to be there. I've had at least 2 weeks off with my previous losses. I just feel that everyone expects me to get on with life, because I've done it before and must be 'used' to it now. I know my boss will not be happy if I take more time off.
I don't know why I'm posting this, I suppose I just want some reassurance that it's ok to be like this.

[bakingtins]

fizzy I'm so sorry. I had 3 MC between Sept12-July13 and it was really shit. It's hard to even believe it has happened again and the grief of previous losses is compounded by each subsequent one. A week really isn't very long to take off, I'm sure GP would sign you off again if you're not ready.

Please come join the RMC support thread if you think it would help. Are you going to have tests now you've had 3 losses? Lots of lovely ladies to support you through the process, and it does help to realise you are not alone. with my first MC I was amazed how many women I knew had similar experiences, as I had more (4 in total) I felt more and more alone with it.

The good news is I did get a diagnosis and treatment and I'm typing nursing my lovely baby daughter. There is always hope, however bleak it seems right now.

[FizzyPinkWine]

Thanks bakingtins.
Waiting for referral to gynae so will hope for some answers from that.
Will go to GP on Monday to see if he'll sign me off for a bit longer.

[AlpacaYourThings]

Oh I'm so sorry, Fizzy.

I had a miscarriage earlier this year and it has really affected me, so I can only imagine how you feel after our third .

I think you sound take the time you need to heal, I agree with bakingtins tat your GP would sign you off for longer.

Fingers crossed your referral gives you some answers.

[LIG1979]

fizzy - sorry to see you on the board (i tend to browse it still.) About the time off, I don't think it does get any easier as whilst you know what to expect physically the emotional side varies with mc. my 1st it was shock and I was very attached to the blob of cells, with the 2nd it was more the fact that it wasn't a 'one off' that was upsetting. Fortunately not had my 3rd but I imagine it is difficult again. If you don't feel ready go and get signed off some more. Especially as work aren't being sympathetic. i found being at work helped take my mind off things but they were ok that I was there but not at low productivity for a while. at a school it must be tougher to do that.

Will they do any testing now?

[FizzyPinkWine]

Doctor has signed me off for the next two weeks. He was lovely and wants to refer me to a doctor with links to st Mary's. Good news.
I'm feeling stronger every day.
Thank you all.

[lozza223]

I have had the same thing, I have had 3 miscarriages since December last year and it so hard, especially when work or people around you don't understand, I found the best way to cope is to take every day as it comes, and keep hoping, if you loose hope then it's hard to get it back again. Good luck and hope everything works out ok xx

[slightlyconfused85]

fizzy I'm sorry. I have just had a miscarriage, and it is the only time this has ever happened to me and I feel awful, I can't imagine how you feel after 3. you said 'school' in your original post, are you a teacher? I am also a teacher and am going to be taking whatever time off I need. I think you should too - and do not worry about it. You have to look after yourself.

[Chottie]

fizzy I'm so sorry to read your post. I have had 3 consecutive miscarriages too and it is the pits....... Your GP sounds very understanding. I have since had two DCs, I hope your referral to the St Mary's doctor doesn't take too long.