another little angel returning to heaven x

[Ljialnye]

Found out at 13weeks (yesterday) that me precious little baby's heart has stopped beating :( now I have to wait a whole week for another scan. Seems evil that the doctors told me 'his heart could be beating by then' :( has anyone been through the same thing and can give me any kind words or wisdom? seems all I hear at the moment is how everyone is so sorry, which doesn't help in the slightest. Xxxx

What did the baby measure LJ ? If it measures around the stage when they expect a HB to be developing (c 6 weeks) then they do always wait and rescan just in case the dates are wrong. It's very frustrating if you know there is no way they could be that far out. If baby measures nearer your dates (bigger than 8 weeks) and has no HB then they would normally get a 2nd opinion at the same scan and book you for management as there is no way the pregnancy could be viable.
Nothing anyone can say will help, but for what it's worth I am sorry you are going through this, it really is shit. There is lots of support available here from the many others who have been through something similar. Check out the thread on tips for coping, which I'll bump up for you, and the Miscarriage Association site for any unbiased information.
Keep posting if it helps, it can feel like a very lonely thing to go through.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this

Did they say why you have to wait another week for another scan? At 13 weeks, things are quite clear, and another week - sorry for being blunt- is not going to bring on a heartbeat As baking said, if it had been an early scan, then there is a chance that one week could make a difference - but you are much further along than that. Can you get more information from the hospital at all?

I am sorry that you had this awful news.

Sending strong thoughts your way at this horrible time, I know what you mean about the 'sorries', a week on and we're still drowning in them, but I'd probably be saying the same if roles were reversed, there are no other words for this situation :-(

We were 12 weeks measuring 11 weeks with no HB, 2 sonographers agreed and we were sent straight to hospital for the ERPC, I'd not had a single MC symptom & yet there was no offer of a later rescan...but the first sonographer spent ages checking & was very thorough. I suppose if they have even a shadow of a doubt they have to cover their backs. How many weeks did they say LO measured in at?

Hey, thank you for all your kind words.. I'm just so lost today. Yesterday I wasn't too bad and this morning I refused to get out of bed :( I had a night of vivid nightmares it's such a horrendous feeling. People keep on asking me if I need anything and they couldn't bring my baby back so it doesn't make sense to me that they are asking.

bakingtins, the baby measured 7 weeks and I am 13weeks. Thank you so much, I will check out the thread and see if I can find some comfort.
Jbrd, the hospital is UHW in Cardiff which was found out to be misdiagnosing a lot of healthy pregnancies as miscarriages so maybe that's why they are being careful? I'm not sure.. :( I'm currently treasuring the final days with my baby inside me, as strange as that might sound, when they take him out he will be gone forever then..
MrsR84, you poor thing! and yes, I probably would too but when you're receiving them it sounds so repetitive and unhelpful. The sonographer did an internal when he couldn't see a heartbeat and wasn't really planning to tell me there was no heartbeat but I continued to question him - the look on his face was obvious. The nurse told me that policy was that they didn't diagnose until they check for the second time. My friend found out that she was pregnant when I did but began bleeding and is having her third re-scan on Friday before they decide to scan again or remove the baby.. it's very unfair and surreal. I also didn't have any symptoms, I was planning to begin baby shopping today and was so excited it was unreal.

Such a shock and such a severe pain and sense of loss

Xxxx