Me & my DH lost our baby a week ago. I'm so sad & feel very alone & just need to talk about it.
I was 11 weeks pregnant & went to bed with mild tummy cramps that I had googled & read that it was quite common in the 1st trimester, not that I had cramps with my DS, who is now 6. Woke in the morning to find I had started bleeding. The hospital told me to wait an hour to see if it got any heavier but I knew there & then it didn't look good. We went straight up to the hospital who confirmed that I had miscarried. I didn't need them to tell me that, I already knew it in my heart due to the amount of blood I was loosing. They kept me in overnight as I passed out with low blood pressure & took me for a scan in the morning, which my DH couldn't come to as they wouldn't allow him in before visiting hours!! I had to face it alone & words cant describe how it made me feel having my scan to make sure the 'products' as they kept calling it had all come away & not to see my baby for the 1st time.
It all happened so quickly, which some may say is a blessing in disguise but I think its left me in a bit of shock & I hate that I'm no longer pregnant. It makes me so so sad every time something reminds me.
I understand why people try & keep pregnancy a secret to start with as its bloody hard telling people you've lost your baby, we didn't tell too many people but I'm finding it even harder to pretend like nothing has happened with the people who had no idea I was pregnant in the 1st place - maybe I've gone back to work too soon!
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Zaza80 · 01/07/2014 13:36
Zaza I'm very sorry you lost your baby. I agree with victoria that a week is too soon to be trying to put a brave face on it. It's a huge shock and a physically traumatic experience, and you need to give yourself time to grieve for all the hopes and dreams you had for the baby and your new life as a family. I found it very helpful to do something to acknowledge the loss - plant a tree, choose some memorial jewellery, write a poem , buy a charity gift, release a balloon .... whatever feels meaningful to you. You are far from alone in this even though it can feel like a very lonely experience. I'd encourage you to be open about what has happened to you, you will probably be surprised how many women of your acquaintance have had similar experiences. There is always someone here to listen if it is easier to talk anonymously. 
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