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Happy stories please!

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Catlover2014 · 13/06/2014 08:35

Thought some of the recent mc ladies might like to hear some positive stories so I'm starting this thread.

If you or someone you know got your happy ending please share on here.

I need something to keep me hoping and trying!!!

XXX

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Myfanwyprice · 13/06/2014 21:47

I had a mc in 2005, but fell again 3 months later and ds was the very happy result.

Decided to ttc when he was 10 months old, went to my gp that summer because I kept getting positive tests and then would start bleeding, that happened 3 months in a row, all early mc's; was advised to give my body and mind a rest and went back on the pill for 6 months.

Started ttc again but without success, found out after some tests that a large cyst meant that I wasn't ovulating, was very lucky to fall for dd on my first cycle of clomid; my planned 2 year age gap ended up being 4 years, but feel very lucky to have come out the other side.

Just want to give hugs and hope to everyone on that journey.

Rummikub · 13/06/2014 21:51

Catlover, I planted some flowers in memory and found a special place to remember my baby. It does hurt. I still remember now. Be kind to yourself through this. It's hard, really hard. Sometimes impossible. It does get easier to bear. Thanks

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Catlover2014 · 13/06/2014 22:04

Rummikub, that's a really beautiful way to mark it. I have a spot where I Iay flowers by the lake at the park where we got married but I haven't been able to face going back since my second mc. I think I will pluck up the courage and do that next week, might help.

Crazy boots, thanks for being kind. Yes you're right it is hard for people to understand and it is just getting through each day right now. I know things will get better in time.

Claire, that's really interesting and I'll ask my GP to test me for that. I love sunshine so would be surprised if it's that hehe.

I'm being tested for thrombophilia, autoimmune, kyptogenetics and thyroid, just waiting for results. Also had testosterone tests but they were all 'normal' so it's not pcos.

Myfan, I'm so sorry they made you wait so long with no explanation and I'm sorry for your losses. Pleased to hear you had a good outcome. I bet your ds loves being big brother even if the age gap is bigger than you'd planned.

XxX

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Rummikub · 13/06/2014 22:07

Yes go, remember and cry. It's ok to do that.

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Catlover2014 · 13/06/2014 22:15

Thank you I will do :) x

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JBrd · 14/06/2014 08:42

Thank you all for sharing your happy stories. After 4 mcs, I am starting to loose hope, but maybe it will still happen for me, too.

allisgood1 · 14/06/2014 08:56

I had 1mmc at 8 weeks with my first pregnancy. Was told to wait 3 months, then got pregnant with DD (no complications). Got pregnant again and had a mmc at 6 weeks. Had retained "products" so had to have an emergency ERPC about 2 weeks after my first ERPC. Then waited 3 months, got pregnant again and again had a mmc at 7 weeks. Had ERPC. About 4 weeks later and no period, had a positive test but knew I wasn't pregnant. Had to have ANOTHER ERPC for ANOTHER retained "products". Pretty much gave up then but fell pregnant with DD2 and had an uncomplicated pregnancy (I did take progesterone and baby aspirin for this). Then out of the blue fell pregnant and am currently 28 weeks with DD3!

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Catlover2014 · 14/06/2014 10:03

Jbrd, im so very sorry for what you've been through. Know we've chatted on here before :(

How are you doing? Are ttc at the moment? I hit rock bottom yesterday but I'm trying to pick myself up today. Do you have terrible days? We have to believe that things will get better one day don't we?!

Allisgood, so sorry to hear what you went through but massive congrats on your 2dcs and baby on the way. Must keep the faith that those who've suffered mc can have a good outcome one day too!

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squizita · 14/06/2014 10:33

Hugh's syndrome is one of the 'sticky blood' disorders (one of the most common) so is picked up by 2 or 3 blood tests over 3 months. If you are getting blood tests I would assume most people would test for it as it is such a common cause of repeat miscarriage.
St Marys Paddington have the national centre in terms of testing and often pick it up in cases where local hospitals' equipment haven't, but in my case it was pretty obvious from the placentas.
Thankfully even in the most obvious cases it's aspirin + clexane during pregnancy giving a 65-75% success rate (so over 90% of those women have a baby on 1st or 2nd attempt after diagnosis if all else is well), and for some women, a heart aspirin a day when not pregnant. :)

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Catlover2014 · 14/06/2014 11:24

Thanks for letting me know!

I'm not having any repeat blood tests but they have already suggested that I take mini asprin if I get another BFP. No mention of clexane though.

I'll ask my consultant about it when I see him. From experience I'm not expecting to get much sense though haha!

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clairewitchproject · 14/06/2014 18:14

Yes I have heard post-mc is a fertile time. I never had problems getting pg, but both my younger children were conceived on the cycle immediately following a mc ( no bleed in between). I heard it is something to do with elevated progesterone post mc left over from the pregnancy,uteing somewhat protective. But it could be complete rubbish.

clairewitchproject · 14/06/2014 18:15

Uteing? Should say 'being'.?

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Catlover2014 · 14/06/2014 21:58

Yes I've heard that too. My second pregnancy was straight after the first after 5 years of ttc but then I mc'd both times. Can't try now until I get blood test results back. Hope we don't lose baby making momentum! X

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squizita · 14/06/2014 22:15

Maybe they'll only bother doing the 2nd if there first shows signs of it? Do ask!

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Catlover2014 · 14/06/2014 23:11

I will do thank you :)

Hope all you ladies are coping with the World Cup. I'm sadly bored of it already!!!

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Sisi13 · 15/06/2014 09:48

I had a mc about 3 years ago we were devastated as I was 38 and thought I may never get pregnant again. Well I did 6 months later and after a wonderfully uneventful pregnancy our beautiful dd arrived. She is now 17 months old and playing in the park with dh as I type.
I hope everyone wishing for their happy endings get theirs.

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Catlover2014 · 15/06/2014 10:12

Thanks for sharing Sisi. Sorry for your loss but congrats on your dd. It gives me such heart when I hear of post 35 success stories!!! X

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Kasterborous · 15/06/2014 23:16

We had six miscarriages over four years. Then five years after the first miscarriage and my seventh pregnancy our gorgeous daughter was born, four months before I turned 40.

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Catlover2014 · 15/06/2014 23:32

Kaster, I'm so sorry for all those losses. I can't imagine how hard that must have been but well done for being strong and coming through it. So happy to hear you have dd after all that! Maybe I should keep on trying for a while longer

Thank you for sharing :) xxx

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weegiemum · 15/06/2014 23:42

I had 2 early miscarriages at c. 9&10 weeks before dd1 was born.

Then another loss at 13 weeks, but conceived ds straight away and he's exactly 2 years younger than dd1.

Dd2 was a complete surprise as I had a mirena.

They're now lolloping, hormonal, football obsessed bunches of pre-teen and teenager-hood!

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Catlover2014 · 16/06/2014 06:41

Weegie, thank you for sharing your story. Sorry for hear of your mcs but big congrats on your lovely teenagers! Gives me some hope after all we've been through. Xxx

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escorpion · 16/06/2014 16:25

Congratulations for all the lovely stories. Gives us all a bit of hope. Special congrats to bakingtins she has been helpful to me during my two MC. Thanks And good luck to all of us on this journey!

ShoeWhore · 16/06/2014 16:37

I had 2 mcs about 6 months apart. I found the first one very hard but the second was absolutely devastating. I was so scared and distraught and felt very alone in it all (dh was lovely but friends didn't seem to understand, I was the first to get pg)

6 months later I got pg for a 3rd time and had my lovely ds, textbook pg. 2 years later I got pg again, had a bit of a scare at about 11 weeks but otherwise easy pg and had ds2. When ds2 was 11 months old I gave birth to ds3 - that pg was so easy I didn't even know I was pg for 8 weeks Blush

My big boy is nearly 10 now.

Gentle hugs to anyone going through this. Flowers It's so painful, I know. I hope you all get your own happy endings very soon.

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Catlover2014 · 16/06/2014 19:50

Escorpian, what's your situation? Sorry if we have spoken on here before, I find it hard to remember names! You're right Bakingtins is a reminder to us all that it could go well. Hope that I too can come on here to support those who are going through this in the future.

Shoe, congrats on your children! All that hardship and loss and then all those healthy pregnancies, what a journey!

Thanks for sharing your feelings at the time too. I often feel like my friends and family think I should just be at peace with what's happened but that's really not possible for me right now. Some days I just want to curl up under my duvet and cry :(

XxX

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escorpion · 16/06/2014 20:36

Catlover Well I have had 2MC about 6 months apart in 2013, am going to start ttc soon but going to a fertility specialist to see if we can rule anything out first or if they can give us any advice. I am so scared to begin trying again as I don´t want to go through another MC. I have thyroid issues and anaemia but not sure if they have anything to do with my losses. Both biopsies did not show anything unusual. I am not in the UK by the way which has made things difficult being away from family. Sending you all my hugs and positive vibes for all us gals wanting to be mummies x