It was the hardest thing ever to tell her. :( . One of my oldest friends is getting married in less than 2 weeks. She asked me about a year ago to be one of 6 bridesmaids and I was so excited.
We're not as close as we used to be, and only stay in touch via Facebook, and occasionally meet up. She doesn't have a mobile, and they dont answer their landline incase it is debt collectors!!
Anyway, I found out last wednesday that I had had a missed miscarriage. I was 8 weeks but baby died at 6 weeks. Had ERPC today to remove the pregnancy. We are devastated, and on top of the emotional pain I am bleeding, and likely to be for at least a week. My bridesmaid dress is tight, uncomfortable, and a pale colour.
I sent her a message on Facebook (as cant bloody ring her!) and told her I couldn't do it. Waiting for a reply and feeling very nervous. So... WIBU and WWYD?
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WIBU to tell her I cant be her bridesmaid 2 weeks before the wedding
ots · 02/06/2014 23:22
Holding hands here too.
You know, not that this in any way excuses it, but I think some people are just completely clueless about how painfully sad (and just plain painful) a MC can be until they experience it themselves or see it close up. Your friend is being extraordinarily insensitive. I am sorry for your loss OP 
Good I'm glad you have someone looking after you. Take care of yourself 
sorry for all of you who have experienced baby loss xx
Here is a doozy I heard "it would have been worse if you had met her". I'd have given anything to have met her, even if we then had to lose her. I wish I knew the colour of my daughters eyes, or the sound of her cry.
People are insensitive. OP - try not to worry too much, you have done the right thing for your family and people who love you will understand that. Take whatever time you need to recover physically and emotionally.
I would consider not going to the wedding at all as there might still be an element of what should have been.
Sorry again for all your losses xx
Woke up to a 1 line response from her saying that she is pissed off but does understand. No kisses (very unlike her) and nothing to say she hopes I'm feeling ok or anything. I think this was the best I could have hoped for.
Going to forget about it now and concentrate on getting better. My best friend is coming over today with cake as DH is back at work.
Thank you all for understanding and talking to me through all this
She's not a friend OP.
She's pissed off
, but she understands
-I doubt that at all!
Look after yourself.
Oh, what a dickhead she is. Every bride is allowed to get a BIT Bridezilla but this goes way beyond that! Forget her, you've done the right thing. Take care of yourself
Agree ....she's no great friend to you.
Forget about it now and think of yourself. Have a nice time with your friend today and don't waste your energy on worrying about this wedding.
Thinking of you
Well now you know. Just forget about the whole thing and move on.
Take care of yourself. She can go get married and have her panic over five bridesmaids if she wants. It's not worth a second more of your time!!
be kind to yourself!
Sorry you've had to find out the hard way that your old friend isn't very nice. :(
Have a love time with your bestie and eat lots of 
OP weddings can bring out the worst in people but your last post was quite sad! I hope you start to fill better soon and enjoy your cake
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