13 weeks just had mc need practical advice

[Millie256]

Hi, new to this I had mc 3 days ago after intial bleeding led onto contractions then the whole sac came out really quite shocking. Have cried, now feel empty. Any idea how long bleeding lasts and should I have scan if i think everything is out. Any advice much appreciated. Have 18mth boy so at last I can hug him!

Oh you poor thing. Don't really know the answer but I had a m/c at 8 weeks and had a scan, it certainly gives peace of mind and is not painful. Hugs.

Poor you, Millie. When I had a miscarriage last year, the bleeding was v sudden and pretty full-on, and I passed the sac. Even though I was at the EPU at the time, and so they could check this, they still wanted me to have a scan a few days afterwards just to make sure that it had been complete - otherwise there is a risk of infection. My bleeding lasted for about a week after that, but I think that really varies from person to person.

It is horrible, but it does gradually get better. Do be kind to yourself, it takes a while. I joined Mumsnet after my miscarriage, and everyone has been the most wonderful support.

Poor you, Millie. When I had a miscarriage last year, the bleeding was v sudden and pretty full-on, and I passed the sac. Even though I was at the EPU at the time, and so they could check this, they still wanted me to have a scan a few days afterwards just to make sure that it had been complete - otherwise there is a risk of infection. My bleeding lasted for about a week after that, but I think that really varies from person to person.

It is horrible, but it does gradually get better. Do be kind to yourself, it takes a while. I joined Mumsnet after my miscarriage, and everyone has been the most wonderful support.

i had a m/c in march. lsot the sack, then 3wks off bleeding. didnt have to go for another scan though.

thinknig of you. good luck.

oh millie256!

I am so sorry for your loss.......13 weeks....that must have been indesribable.....you think you are safe at 13 weeks!

I had a m/c 2 weeks ago, it was missed, so they found at my weekly scans that at week 9 my baby's heartbeat just stoppped! so I had a D+C.

My other 2 m/c happened naturally and had check scans to make sure all had come away ......I think this is advisable if you have bled.... see what your GP says (they are usually very good!)

Just when you think the most awrful thing has happened to you... you hear of somebody elses expereince which is even worse than your own....I thought things were bad at 9 weeks...... but 13! again I am so sorry... you will find some comfort here.

Hi Millie, so sad to hear you've had a m/c. I lost baby number one at 16wks and it ws so hard, thought I was 'safe'.

You do need to tell your midiwfe/GP and have a scan to check that nothing's been retained as if it has you may get an infection. My bleeding was heavy for a week or so then got lighter as the second week went on. I was also in a lot of pain for the first week and walking anywhere made it worse so keep off your feet and give your body a bit of time to recover. Voltarol/nurofen/ibuprofen may help with the pain if your know you can take them safely.

Emotionally it's different for everyone, give your DS lots of cuddles and make sure your DH/DP knows how you're feeling so he can support you. It gets easier but takes a while.

Also, a word of warning - you do ovulate about 2 weeks after a m/c, I got pg straight away which I know some people think they would like but it was a very painful pg with lots of bleeding which my GP out down to my body not being ready enough having had no time to heal. I wasn't emotionally ready either. It's up to you what you do but give yourself some time. hope this has helped - big

Thanks everyone these messages were so encouraging, to know that others ahve also gone through this. I am feeling better at the moment. Think I will ring the GP tomorrow and ask for a scan just to check all Ok. Not in pain but seems good advice. Gp says best to wait 1-2 cycles before trying again, I guess this makes sense.

Hi Millie. I am so so sorry sweetheart. You sound strong but take it one day at a time. I had ectopic a month ago and still don't think it has quite hit me.
I think you must have a scan-although I know you'd much rather put it all behind you but you need to be sure evarything is out.
Good luck XX

Not sure if it will hit me more later, you feel ok one minute, going back to face everyonr at work tomorrow hope this isn't too tough.

It will be fine. People are lovely. I still have loads of people that think I'm still pregnant and will be expecting a fat belly at the school gates on Wednesday.
Not looking forward to that either!
You'll feel better once its over and done.

Thanks spook, I had a scan today and there is a bit of tissue or something left, they said should come out naturally so further scan in a weeks time. Also they took blood and will again in 48hrs to make sure hormone levels Ok and they will be able to let me know if it may have been ectopic. Glad I went as at least all is being checked out, hope you get on Ok at the school gate.