2nd MC.... Head is a wreck!!

[Kloulou]

Hi there everyone.
I'm currently going through my 2nd MC (first was at 5wks, last sept, this one 6wks) I lost the sac on Saturday tea time and have been bleeding heavily on and off since then. No pain or fever though. It's been a tough week as I started with spotting and lots of cramp pain last Sunday. Had a scan and they said baby was viable. Had another scan on Thursday as I had a larger bleed on wed and again, still viable. They did notice a slight separation on the womb lining but was told it would most likely repair. Noticed pain had stopped on Saturday and around tea time I went to the loo, felt slight pressure then heard a big plop. Felt Okish yesterday, kept myself busy (I am extremely fortunate to have 2 DDs age 6 and 4, both text book pregnancies and deliveries, although took 18mnths to conceive with both.)
By yesterday evening I felt hormones kicking in and my mood dropped. Spent the whole night sat on the sofa bawling my eyes out while everyone slept. Am still on and off crying now. Doesn't help obviously that I'm absolutely shattered. I felt mostly relief on Saturday that my week of turmoil had come to an end, even if it wasn't the way I'd hoped. Today I feel empty and very very sorry for myself. I'm thinking perhaps my hormones are peaking or something as I also have very very sore boobs.
Does everybody go to the drs after they MC? After my last one I was just told to ride it out and take pain relief. I don't need to be told that again?! Just wondering what I should do now. Hoping to get lots of sleep tonight and wake up tomorrow in a better place.

Hi klou sorry to see you coming across here from the pregnancy thread. I would suggest you at least contact your doctor and get the miscarriage documented on your medical records. There probably isn't anything to be gained by seeing them unless you are not coping at home. You do need to be checked to make sure the miscarriage is complete, this can either happen by having a scan at EPU in a week or so, or taking a HPT (hoping for a negative result) in about 2 weeks.
I hope you are able to get some rests and feel better physically, but take it easy. A second MC is hard to come to terms with emotionally - I felt like I'd had my 'bad luck' it was some other bugger's turn!

Thank you for replying. That's exactly how i am feeling at the moment. We found out I was pg very early this time. When I went for the scan I was 7wks by lmp but measured at 5wks. We had 3wks to get our heads round it all. My last MC happened 2 days after I found out I was pg so was a very quick process. I was so sure that everything would be ok this time.
I'm pretty certain all material is leaving my body so am not keen on the idea of going for yet another scan, especially after what happened last week. Will do a HPT like you said in 2 wks. Feeling all symptoms today, could that be the hormones peaking before they calm down again?
Am extremely fortunate to have a DH and DM helping me through the process and helping with the girls but it's nice to have like minded people to talk to who have been through similar situations. It's just unfortunate it's such a horrible situation.
Finally, how long is best before ttc again? DM and the few people who know suggest I should leave it and let my body recover. DH and myself decided today we just want to try again ASAP. Hopefully third time lucky??? I'm 33 and I don't feel like I've got time to be waiting around when another baby is something we both really want. We've agreed one more go and if it's not gonna work out again it's not meant to be. Am extremely grateful to have my 2 DDs x

Yes i agree go just to make sure it's documented. Hopefully you won't have to go through this again but it's always worth having each mc logged just incase. I had two mcs and know it can be very hard on the heart. Good luck with try number 3, do you think you'll wait or keep trying straight away? x

I'm just waiting to see my GP I lost my baby on Friday at 10 weeks an want to know when we can try again I just want too move on with life! I will let you know what they say :)

I'm so sorry you've experienced this again, mine was my 1st and it's awful! I can't imagain your pain right now!

Xxxx

I'm 33 and I don't feel like I've got time to be waiting around when another baby is something we both really want.

You have plenty of time. Plenty. Do take a month or two for physical and mental health if you need it, your body will thank you.

Crappy thing is I would have been due the baby from the first MC this week or week after. Talk about unfortunate timing!

Home from the doctor she said, when ever your ready but give your body time to heal an give your emotions time to come to terms with what's happened, she said 2-3 months but if you want you can try whenever your ready. Hope this helps xxx

Thank you Lucie84 sorry to hear you're going through a tough time too xx

How are you feeling today? Xx

Hi Lucie, I felt much better when I woke up this morning, am still suffering with preg symptoms (my boobs are killing me!) but mentally I feel a bit better about the situation. Had my date for 12 wk scan in the post today though which is unfortunate. Makes me feel sad tht I won't be attending that appointment. Occurred to me today that I also need to contact my midwife and tell her I've miscarried. It's hard to just "forget" about it when there are things constantly reminding you isn't it. Bleeding wise, it's settled down into more of a heavy period so felt safe to leave the house today. How are you doing? Xx

Same as you are really the emotional side was hiding not anymore it's been full on tears today feels nice to let it all out! I'm waiting for that dreaded letter I would have been 11 weeks today so it sucks!

Been thinking of you! Glad your bleeding has slowed down mine is getting there still sitting on a waterproff pad just incase!

I'm glad your starting to feel better slowly! I'm learning quickly everyday is different looking forward to good days :)

I'm here of you want to talk xxx

Thank you Lucie, same for you too. Here if you need to vent or talk.
I can't wait for everything to return to normal, helps to move on then.
Maybe plan something for a couple of weeks time that you wouldn't be able to do if you were pregnant. Am thinking of asking DM to have the DDs so myself and DH can go out and get hammered it helped last time so will hopefully help again. Obviously only if you think it would help though, what worked for me might not work for you x

Thank you! I turn 30 in two weeks was planning a quiet meal out I'm not a huge drinking but sounds like a "drowning my sorrows" may make me feel better still just want to cry an sleep right now so will take each day an all that!

Sounds like a plan a night with you an DH may make you feel "normal" even if it only last the night it will be a welcome break I can imagain!

I hope you do as well as you are this far but you know where to find me if you need to vent :)

Huge hugs Lucie xx

Yeah definitely take it a day at a time... Even an hour at a time! I've still had wobbly moments today.... Close to tears but not the wreck I was yesterday. It will get better for you. Sleep is the best thing. Chocolate helps too
Am gonna go see my Gp tomorrow. Have so many questions, I know I'm not classed as having recurrent miscarriages yet (I think you have to have 3 for that) but some advice or anything they can do would be helpful? "Just one of those things" really doesn't make it any better does it!
X

Yeah I can't imagine going through this twice! Your such a strong woman to be so open an share your pain!

My hospital said I would have extra scans with my next pregnancy as I've had a miscarriage but I think your right 3 before they will investigate which is shit.

I'm glad your having a good day my bleeding has slowed so I'm going to try have a bath before it starts up again an get an early night I think see what tomorrow brings :)

Thinking of you xxx

Thank you Hun.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you x