Pregnant after miscarriage- terrified of it happening again

[Chattycat78]

Hi girls,

I'm kind if hoping for some reassurance- I had a blighted ovum diagnosed at 8 weeks 8 months ago. Not nice, had to have the ERPC, lost loads of blood etc etc.

Since then we have had fertility issues- I've got low egg reserve- so we were told we needed IVF. Long story short, after having to go through IVF, we found out this week that it worked. This should be great news, but instead I'm obsessing about my blighted ovum and I'm convinced that this is too good to be true and when we have the scan it will be another blighted ovum or something else will go wrong. This has not been helped by the fact I m having some brown spotting, which I Also had last time when it all went wrong!

Has anyone else felt like this after a miscarriage? It's really taken the shine off the 'good news' for me. Xx

Hi Chatty

I felt like this... I miscarried after my first IUI, had a BFN after my second and my third IUI resulted in a BFP (BF'ing my 12 week old as I type this!).

I did not feel the same elation I felt with the first BFP. It is natural to be cautious after what you've been through. But with each milestone you hit you will relax and start to enjoy it. I loved every second of my pregnancy in the end... Morning sickness, sleepless nights, heartburn... All of it!

Remember today you are pregnant. Congratulations!

Congratulations! it's v normal to be anxious once you've experienced a MC, you can't get the innocent belief that everything will be ok back. If some company would help there is a lovely supportive thread for pregnancy after MC over on the pregnancy board.

Thanks- yes I did notice the other thread. I think you are right- I have lots of friends who have never had miscarriage happily breezing through without a second thought while I'm a nervous wreck! I'm not allowing myself to even think it's true until at least 12 weeks (if we make it that far that is). Last time it was horrendous and I distinctly remember having to throw away my maternity notes folder- i guess I want to shield myself from that. X

I'm currently 25 weeks pg from IVF having mc'd my earlier IVF baby. The first trimester was awful, not helped by the fact that I bled non-stop for 3 weeks. It was a horribly anxious time. I relaxed a bit after the 12 week scan, but I can't say I am enjoying pregnancy - it's just something I have to go through. I want the end result.

Thanks euro- I see that the feelings I'm experiencing are common then. Glad all is going well got you this time- it must have been very hard having a miscarriage after IVF especially. I think that's why I'm so worried as I know how much effort has gone into getting to this point!

Hi! Just wanted to post that my friend who had successful IUI spotted for first 12 weeks of her pregnancy and she is due to have her baby very soon. I've heart spotting is more common after fertility treatment.

I do know first hand the worry of mc, esp after fertility issues, and it's very natural to worry. But the likihood of it happening again are very low.

Good luck with everything. I'm sure it will be just fine :)

XX