My second miscarriage - is there light at the end of the tunnel?

[Anne31]

I found out yesterday that my baby had stopped developing at 6weeks and I'm truly gutted :( this isn't my first miscarriage, I had that in November 13, again baby stopped developing at 6weeks and it all seems very familiar this time. Both times I noticed my discharge becoming a yellowy nude colour and the alarm bells started to ring, last time the discharge turned brown and I miscarried in the 10th week. This time knowing the signs I went for an early scan but there was no heartbeat. Now I have to wait for a follow up scan and then if like last time will miscarry naturally in 2 weeks time.

I have all sorts of questions wizzing round my head - why has this happened again? Is it coincidental both stopped developing at 6 weeks? Have me or my husband got problems? We are both healthy, don't smoke, don't drink and both in early 30s. I'm scared about going through this again. Already I feel negative about it happening again. I do want to be positive, it's just such an emotionally draining experience. Since finding out I feel very numb and like my worst fear came true yesterday. It's raw still and just feels very surreal.

First pregnancy, we got so excited and told some friends and family, it was horrible telling everyone we had miscarried so this time we didn't tell anyone about this pregnancy. Downside is, now I feel very alone. My husband is great and really supportive but being a woman I feel like I need to speak to someone about this. Has anyone else experienced consecutive miscarriages and gone on to have a baby? I guess I just need to hear some positive things right now and know I'm not alone.

Thanks x

Hi JonesSchool, yes i'm 31 and I know exactly what you mean. There are a lot of my friends who have told me they are trying to get pregnant and I feel like I am just waiting for the news they are. Also not just friends but people around me.. a couple of weeks ago I was in work and found out about 5 people who were pregnant in 24 hours! that was a hard day but then when I got my positive text a week later I was over the moon. Just gutted its ended this time :( I guess its just the age we're at that everyone is getting pregnant. I try not to let it get to me but it's easier said than done. I just keep thinking to myself one day it will be my turn - just got to keep strong.

I know what you mean about at least feeling like you are trying something with the baby asprin. I will speak to my GP about it. I would be gutted to have a third preganncy and miscarry, get testing and find out my blood was clotting. I think if it won't do any harm its worth a try. Just such a lottery! It could be 2 very unlucky pregnancies and (fingers crossed) everything will go great next time.

Its horrible at the moment, my body feels so pregnant still but I know the miscarriage will manifest itself soon... Just a waiting game. Want it to happen naturally so will just wait it out.

I'm really happy I have come on to this forum, I've felt much more positive since and its good to receive the support - thanks all :)

Hi Anne31,

So sorry for you losses. I miscarried in December 13 and last month I lost another baby at 11 weeks so I know just what you're going through.
I also struggled to conceive and it took 4 years to get my first BFP.

My consultant is trying 5mg of folic acid and mini aspirin. Both of which you can try yourself and probably wouldn't do any harm. I'll already be on progesterone pessaries as both my other other pregnancies were supported with that.

If you want to PM me for a chat feel free. I hate the thought of you feeling lonely and I know just how hard this loss is :(

Xxx

Thanks catlover - will send you a PM x

Update just wanted to provide an update in case anyone else comes across this post and this advice might help after experiencing an ectopic pregnancy after my 2 miscarriages I was desperate to find answers and I'm happy to say I did. I requested blood tests and found out my thyroid TSH level was higher than the normal range (normal range 0.4-4, mine was 6.5). When you are pregnant they recommend that your thyroid TSH level is as close to 1 as possible. I started on a course of thyroxine and fell pregnant the second month of trying. I am very happy to say we now have a beautiful little boy called Elijah :D who is now 14 months old. Not to waste time I am now 25 weeks pregnant with my second son. Pregnant after 1 month. I know the medication has made the world of difference. I am so glad we looked and found answers. If this post can help just one person going through a similar situation i will be made up. Please don't give up and keep looking till you find answers - and check your thyroid is functioning right as it controls so much with your hormones it could just be the missing piece to the puzzle - best wishes xx

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I had two miscarriages and then a healthy DS, then another miscarriage and another healthy DS. Both were textbook pregnancies. There is hope but I will never forget the heartache. The second time around I was told by a consultant to take junior aspirin and it worked. I often wonder if I was unable to carry girls. Sending good wishes to all of you on here.

I'm sorry for what you are going through op. I had 3 consecutive miscarriages, between my 2 dc. After mc3 I felt I needed a break mentally and physically so we stopped trying for a year and I focused on other things. We started trying again and I had successful pg, the result of which is snuggled up with me now. We had tests which were incolnclusive. The fact is that miscarriages are extremely common, but most people go on to have healthy babies. Stay positive

@areyourevising and @hungrytilllater - Thanks I am very happy with a little boy and another on the way. I had gone through a tough time in the past but sometimes you have to go through difficulties to find answers. I was only posting an update last night to update people on my experience and the cause (confirmed by an endochrinologist) of my miscarriages. The foetus needs thyroxine until 12 weeks gestation and my body wasn't producing enough. I wanted to update as I scoured the internet for answers and tried everything only in the end to find out a simple blood test held the answers. I know every situation is different but I never knew the big role the thyroid plays in conception and maintaining a pregnancy. My update is to alert other women that they should get this checked out if they are experiencing miscarriages as it could potentially be an underlying cause.

I have just read this thread and am so happy to see you got a happy ending Anne. It gives me hope as I am currently going through my 5th miscarriage. I was referred to the rmc after my 3rd loss, had another loss while I was awaiting the appointment and was then 7 weeks pregnant with this baby when I had my appointment. Heartbeat seen, everything looked fine but unfortunately my baby stopped growing last week at 10 weeks.

Consultant has told me she is going to run every test possible on both me and the baby. I just hope I get an answer like you have.