8th miscarriage

[candygirl]

hi everyone ! i am 34 and on wednesday suffered my 8th m/c am feeling very confused and sad , i was really pleased to find this site so at last i hope i can talk to people who really do understand wot i'm going through and not people trying too, but being so far off the mark.
i have a 14 yr old daughter and had no problems with that pregnancy ,after loosing my dad a couple of years later i was not ready to have another baby as could not face having a baby my dad would never see , anyway!i fell pregnant about 5 yrs ago (not a planned pregnancy) we were all very excited after coming to terms with it but sadly miscarried at 7-8 wks .we were so upset at this but decided we wanted to try again only to happen again and again and again ,we have been going to st.marys at paddington since ,we've had every test done all they can find is that i need to take 150 mg of asprin as my blood thickens to fast,i have done this on about 4 pregnancys now but still no luck.wot do i do now ! any advice out there as i am feeling abit of a failiure for not being able to do something that is supposed to be so natural. i cant help but blamin myself for lettin everyone down .i would love to hear from anyone out there

Hi Candy

re: Rm/c clinic I'm actually in Oz, hence weird time so went to one in Sydney. but wasn't to impressed how did you go at yours? Are you on any treatment?
my dh is away and i am now paranoid something might happen to him, silly but now realize how great it is to have him about.
your dh sounds naughty taking to 21 yr/old, glad you worked it out though.

ttc is -trying to concieve (after miscarriage). Under Conception/Topics. you will get loads of support, we probably arn't all actively trying but a good place to chat to people with similar experiences.

hi uki ! answering your question on my clinic,well i go to st.mary's at paddington ,london. they are supposed to be known world wide and top place to go in our situation.i feel let down by them in a way that i never get to see the top lady. as they cant find any problem except that my blood gets thick to quick so i have to start taking asprin as soon as i have a pos test,but have done this on the last 4 preg and obviosly no luck .i m/c at 7/8 wks every time.im not saying their no good but i feel i should see the top lady as after 8 (i no there are people out there who have had more and that im not anything special)but it cost me alot of money to get there to be told the same everytime.i am going next month and will ask to see her.they said when i called them last that the next thing maybe an internal examination by operation.NICE! i have heard lots of good stories about them and success stories i suppose im just bitter its not me as one of them.we'll see what they say next time eh! i have to work out whether to go on or stop as i am having a real hard time emotionally and just keep on crying at anything .do i say enough is enough ,or do i say ive come this far i cant give up now !
anyway im going on abit arent i ,hope your not stressing to much about your dh ,he'll be fine,but i no wot you mean ever since my dad died im like that with dh & dd ,ive seen councellors about it.
do u live permanently in oz ?
well ive bored you enough for the mo you take care and i might catch you on ttc x

Hi Again
candy, I agree you should see the top lady is that lesley Ragan? I also micarry around 7/8 weeks. I have tested positive although only borderline to thrombophilia and lupus, but they said asprin is now old school and not that successful i have heard otherwise apart from you, and one or two others but if it helps women who don't test positive at all!!!
Have they not tried heparin with you, i thought that was for sticky blood/ blood clotting. Also can't find it now but there was an article on the web recentlty that steriods helped some lady who had 15 m/c. I know what you mean about it being emotionally draining, i don't know wether to try or not this month. I have only had 4 and have one ds, in between, but i wasn't expecting it to happen again. I wish i could just not know i was preg till 12 weeks or longer yes i live prem in oz, but dh is 1/2 english and i'm half austrian so love to travel. has your dh had tests too?

I guess by operation they mean a laparoscopy? I have had one of those as they thought, i had an eptopic preg once. I was just glad it wasn't>

I think you are very brave Candy and feel free to express your feelings here if you want. Has the councillor been helpful too. I'm sure you will get through this time- here's wishing for you.

hi uki ,so wot time is it there now !late im thinking .yes my husband has been tested .
asprin is old hat ,but is proofen and tested .apparently ive heard st.marys only use things that have been tried and tested over a 5/10 yr period .i asked about progesterone but they say they dont recommend it as its not been tested enough and possibly showing abnormalities in male genetal area.
heperin : ive been tested for it and not needed apparently.
pro regan is the top lady at st.marys.
it is scarrey isnt it thinking about trying again,did you have 2 then your son ? if so maybe the pattern will be the same and next time lucky.who knows ! but i wish you all the luck in the world.
wouldnt it be great to just go for a scan and be told you were 12 wks preg without you having to go through all that worry.unfortunately lifes not that easy.
the operation i am on about is not the laporoscopy ,as ive had that ,its one where they put the camera in through your virgina and it looks inside the womb and can see alot more,soz cant think of its name !
thanks for being so kind and allowing me to express my feelings but if i start ill never stop im pretty screwed up at the mo ,but i have to keep telling myself theres a lot of sick people out there ,so im not so bad of am i!
take care speek soon x
same for you im always here to listen if you need someone too.