ectopic pregnancy i feel so alone

[han1001]

I feel so alone and upset and need to chat to people who are also going through this. I found out i was pregnant 2 weeks ago and me and my partner were so happy. We went to the first scan cause the doctors wanted to know how many weeks i was. During the scan the doctor said the baby wasn't in my womb and that my left tube was dilated. He said it could be ectopic and sent me to get blood tests. Me and my partner were in shock and i started crying and collapsed in the hospital. I could see strange colours and my hearing went funny. I got taken into a&e and they did tests and i got moved to a ward. The doctor then came up and confirmed it was an ectopic pregnancy and gave me two options either have the injections or surgery. I chose the surgery as my left tube was damaged and they removed it in the operation. This was 3 days ago and im trying to recover. I just hate how we had no choice but to get our baby removed and i feel so alone. My partner has 2 children from a previous relationship and i feel like a failure. IM only 23 and scared i wont be able to have children and wish i was still pregnant. Is there anyone here who can talk with me?

I've no personal experience of this. But my sister had an ectopic with her first pregnancy and had one tube removed. She's currently pregnant with her 6th DC.

Yes, I find myself getting tearful sometimes over small things but it seems to be happening less now. How are you feeling now? Do your wounds feel sore still? mine do, and they are itchy! I also have aches inside which I guess is normal..
The skin on my face especially my nose was very dry following the operation (they told me this was due to the morphine etc) but it has cleared up now. I found using a cleansing balm on my face rather than a foaming face wash really helped, then using a cream like savlon on dry areas.
Thank you pickles for your comment, it helps to know about people who have gone on to have successful pregnancies.