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i am 35 weeks, find the baby dead inside?

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happywithit · 21/02/2014 22:56

i have 2 boys with c-section, i aaas pregnant with a girl this time, i was very exited, yesterday i did not feel nothing, no movement, i notice it in the night time, i waited until the morning, i called the hospital, they ask me to came, they cheek for the baby heart, not moving at all, they confirm the baby dead, very chocked, they give me tablet and i have to came back sunday 9am for trying for normal birth, anyone had any experience? is it more hard than giving birth to a life baby?

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SarahPatricia · 21/02/2014 23:59

I know its hard but try and get some rest. I'll message you in the morning x

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happywithit · 22/02/2014 00:01

ok, thank you for this information.

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happywithit · 22/02/2014 00:05

i will do, as i am felling really tired. thank you very much.

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HenriettaPie · 22/02/2014 00:06

So sorry happywithit, what a terrible thing to go through. I will be thinking of you x

yolothankgod · 22/02/2014 00:07

My thoughts are with you at such a painful time Flowers

bakingtins · 22/02/2014 07:18

OP I hope you managed to get some sleep. What a terrible thing to be faced with. I'll be saying a prayer for you tomorrow. Have a look at the SANDS website that was mentioned up thread, you are going to be faced with all sorts of decisions you haven't prepared for, it will help you decide what to do. Flowers RIP Meriam.

Cat98 · 22/02/2014 07:19

I am so very sorry.
Look after yourselves x

Monkeyandanimal · 22/02/2014 07:24

I'm so sorry you are going through this. x

SarahPatricia · 22/02/2014 07:26

How are you doing this morning? Manage to get any rest? x

EirikurNoromaour · 22/02/2014 07:30

You poor darling. I am thinking of you, of Meriem and your family. I'm so sorry xxxxxx

Only1scoop · 22/02/2014 07:30

Op I'm so sorry....just devastating for you and your family....
Will be thinking of you Thanks

iamatwinareyou · 22/02/2014 07:31

I am so sorry to hear this Hmm hope you managed some sleep thinking of you 2moz

LIttleMissTickles · 22/02/2014 07:32

I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you too. Desperately sad, you sound so brave. I hope you got some sleep.x

Mogz · 22/02/2014 07:41

You and your family are in our thoughts today OP

tsw · 22/02/2014 09:10

I have replied to your thread in the other forum about my own experience of delivering a still born baby.

I think you are wise to not want a section at this stage. If you, in the
Likely event, decide to ttc ASAP then most docs say wait 12 months post section. Something that is very difficult to think about but was certainly all I thought about for the months after. I mean no disrespect if it is not, from experience the vast majority of mums feel this way.

angelgabe · 22/02/2014 11:31

I have no experience i'm afraid but I had to stop to say how sorry I was to read your thread. I can't imagine what you're going through. Sending the biggest hug to you. x

DrewsWife · 22/02/2014 11:50

I am praying for you and your family and also for little Meriam.

You are allowed to grieve for your baby. You don't need to be strong. The mums here will all support you x Thanks

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happywithit · 22/02/2014 12:08

thank you so much, i had a very hard night, i was just waiting for the morning, i did not like night time at all, i sleep and wake up but when i sleep for few minutes i dream about the same things hospital, birth, i don't think i was sleeping everything like if i am a wake, i am very worried, i just want it to be over, i want the baby to came out of my belly, i find it hard to know she is dead and i am still caring her, i am worried about the birth, hope god will help me, i hope everyone pregnant have a happy ending. this is the worse things can happen.
thank you again very much about all your support, i just feel more relax while writing what i feel, even if i trying to show myself strong but i crying.
i dont want people to see my bump no more thinking i am pregnant while the baby is dead inside. its very hard to go out with dead baby inside you.

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Jemma1111 · 22/02/2014 12:21

I'm so sorry x

ipswichwitch · 22/02/2014 12:33

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. When we lost one of our twins at 34 weeks, (I had a section to deliver the other one safely) the midwife gave me a memory box and put a card with his hand and foot prints in, a lock of his hair and some pictures of him. I know DH will probably never look at the box, but I have and found it a comfort. It's something of him that I can keep forever if you see what I mean. Hopefully your hospital does the same. We also had to register his birth and death. You will get as long as you need with your baby to say goodbye - my thoughts and prayers will be with you tomorrow

BobbyGentry · 22/02/2014 12:33

So sorry to hear about the tragic death of your daughter, Meriam.

You could contact SANDs, UK charity for stillborn and neonatal death www.uk-sands.org/

Bereavement is awful and taking support from others may help some.

Asking for footprints, placing your beautiful daughter in a special outfit and taking photos, may help the grieving process and offer cherished memories later.

SarahPatricia · 22/02/2014 14:57

Your a very strong woman even if you don't feel it now x

SarahPatricia · 23/02/2014 18:52

How are you? Been thinking of you all day x

bakingtins · 23/02/2014 19:01

Been thinking of you OP, hope you found the strength you needed to get through today.

ateddybearfromdelaware1 · 23/02/2014 19:08

Hope you are ok op x