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Ttc after miscarriage over 35

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PaulaFletch14 · 12/02/2014 22:10


I had a silent miscarriage in December my first pregnancy absolutely heartbroken. I'm TTC again and I'm looking for a thread for those over 35. Any you can recommend? Thanks x

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MisForMumNotMaid · 12/02/2014 22:15

I can't recommend a thread, maybe you could start another?

I just wanted to say i'm sad for your loss.

I had three miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy post thirty five. Then when anaemic and really quite physically and mentally low
I conceived again. My DD was born healthy at 39 weeks by section.

It can happen. I hope that it works out for you.

Beamur · 12/02/2014 22:16

Happened to me too, 1 MM and 1 very early MC, DD will be 7 soon. I was 36 (soon to be 37) when she was born.
Good luck and don't lose heart.

duvetheaven · 12/02/2014 22:23

Sorry to hear of your heartbreak. Mumsnet is a really good place tor support and info. I have learned a great deal about MC on Mumsnet. I have experienced four - two in the last few months. I am also TTC and am aged 43. It's hard to stay positive but due to my age have started enquiring about the private route re tests. Statistically, the chances of next pregnancy working out are in your favour. Hope 2014 is our year for BFP and a baby : )x

sebsmummy1 · 12/02/2014 22:27

Bless you. I had one healthy problem free pregnancy at 37 and one early miscarriage recently at 38. The stats of miscarriage do go up as you get older but please don't think you cannot have a healthy full term pregnancy because you have had a mc.

Why don't you let this become the support thread you are looking for? I will happily post on here and I'm sure other people would be happy to support your TTC journey.

bakingtins · 13/02/2014 07:37

There's a very nice supportive TTC after MC thread ( will have something about posi-fricking-tivity in the title) on the conception board, but it's not specifically for over 35s.
The over 35 thing is a bit overstated IMHO, you have got pregnant once, for most women they can still get pregnant in late thirties, and MC stats don't rise sharply (due to chromosome defects) until you are into your forties. I'm 24 weeks pregnant at age 39 after recurrent miscarriages. I listened to a lot of crap about my age until it was proven the MC had nothing to do with dodgy chromosomes and I actually got a proper diagnosis and treatment.
Good luck, hope you get your BFP and have a healthy pregnancy v soon.

sebsmummy1 · 13/02/2014 07:48

Bakingtins may I ask what your diagnosis was?

eurochick · 13/02/2014 07:48

Over in conception there is the posi frickin tivity thread mentioned and a few threads for the over 30s or over 35s and in my experience many of the posters on the latter threads have experienced mc as well, as it is so common.

I had an mc last year at 37, following my first round of ivf. I am now (very nervously) pg again after my fourth round, at 38.

Mc rates do go up with age but plenty of people over 35 have successful pregnancies, whether or not they have had previous mcs.

Good luck with ttc.

Ruggle · 13/02/2014 08:16

I had an mmc and an mc last year but am now 14 weeks pregnant at 39, and it will (fingers crossed) be my first baby.

bakingtins · 13/02/2014 12:39

sebsmum High uterine NK cells. It's a defect or imbalance of the immune system which prevents implantation, so a normal embryo is effectively 'starved out'. Treated with steroids, amonst other supportive meds (I also had heparin, high dose folic acid and progesterone)

PaulaFletch14 · 13/02/2014 17:05

Thank you everyone for your messages. I'm 39 (40) at end of August. I'm ovulating again after miscarriage and after my first period my cycle has gone back to normal. I've an appointment at private fertility clinic in March to have an mot check everything is in working order and to see what help we can get. Hopefully I'll have a bump on my wedding day in august x

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PaulaFletch14 · 13/02/2014 17:06

Sebsmummy good idea Grin xx

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worriedmum100 · 13/02/2014 19:54


I'm 38 and currently waiting to miscarry after hopeless hgc results. I'm about 5 weeks. This would have been dc2 and we've been ttc for two years but were successful (if only for a short while) following our first IUI.

When I found out this pg wasn't viable I briefly thought about giving up ttc. I wasn't sure I could take anymore disappointment, especially when even a BFP brings only more worry after a mc. But we will ttc again because I know I have another child in me. It just wasn't meant to be this one :(.

I'm not sure what to do about ttc again in terms of timing. Do I have to wait for a proper period or can we start when the miscarriage is over?

We may try IUI again but not until some uterine scarring I have from my previous c section thoroughly checked out. The doc noticed fluid leaking from the scar when doing the IUI. I think this could be at root of fertility issues and mc.

Here's hoping for some positive outcomes this year x

Sharnellasmith · 10/05/2017 00:44


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peripateticparents · 10/05/2017 04:33

Paula, just to add to the positive outcomes on record, I had a mmc at 37, Dc1, mc, mc, dc2, mc and dv3 at 42. I also had a fair few very early miscarriages but Ibe got 3 happy and healthy kids among them all. I would seriously look into doing the best you can for the last 3 months of each egg's life before ovulation, though- wish I'd known then what I know now; they mature just before release and you can help their quality. I found angelbumps fertility protocol (on fertility friends website) really useful but there's lots of books etc too. Best of luck!

Angliski · 13/05/2017 15:49

I made this fro those of us who have had a miscarriage. I am so sorry for your loss. I think it is so important that we are able to talk about our experiences here and in the wider world.

It's a TED Talk about my miscarriage.

I am now waiting for my period to return after the D and C - its been five weeks - because we are using IUI i have to wait till then to try and all my friends are having their 12 week scans. It is tough! Although it's my first miscarriage of my first pregnancy, I have an appointment at Dr REgans recurrent miscarriage clinic in london ( paid privately) because i want to rule out the NK cells and stuff. She will prob say being fat and 38 doesn't help but because our IUI was so expensive and i got pregnant first time, i want to give us the best chance next time.

Fingers crossed for every one of us xxx
Happenedagain2017 · 13/05/2017 17:37

Angliski I am quite not in your position but I am familiar with pregnancy loss and wanted to say that is a lovely video. Good luck in your journey xx

Angliski · 15/05/2017 14:58

Thank you happened - sending love.
Where are you at?

Ok af has finally arrived five weeks today after mmc and d and c in April-we caught first time Bfp from medicated iui that time but sadly lost it.

Gearing up to have another go this month! Fingers crossed! Trying to decide whether to do the medicated again or go unmedicated. I went to see dr Lesley regan who is an expert at the recurrent miscarriage unit in london and she says sometimes the ovarian stim- if you don't need it- then it forces less healthy eggs to come up. So now not sure what we will do but on way to clinic to discuss. We are private and have three more goes - good luck to us all! Xxxx

Anyone got advice on meds vs no meds?

Emblebee · 16/08/2017 10:33

Hi there I am 37 and have a ds who will be 6 in sept I had a beautiful baby boy born sleeping at 24+4 he was perfect we called him Evan and miss him so much but talk about him every day we fell pregnant in June and have lost this little one at the weekend at 10 weeks I feel so down and desperate to try again has this happened to anyone else and gone on to have another successful pregnancy so want to give my boys a little brother or sister

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