feeling very low/ tearful

[Boboli]

I miscarried on 10 December. I luckily had xmas to get over things before starting back at work in the new year thinking I'd be fresh and back to normal.

Reality is that I just can't stop crying, I'm so tearful. Is this normal? I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm almost keeping things together at work - my job is quite full on. I'm finding that the slightest thing is setting me off in tears (am hiding this from people at work).

I have 2 young children. This would've been my 3rd baby. Somehow I have it in my head that I should just be able get over this because I already have 2 children so these feelings are a bit of a surprise.

My DH doesn't really want us to get pregnant again which isn't helping my state of mind.

Do you think counselling would help come to terms with things?

Hi Boboli
I'm so sorry you lost your baby
I found out on 6 December my baby had died at scan, complications with medical management resulting in three days in hospital and baby being removed physically

I still cry all the time, I feel so empty inside, like part of me is missing. This was my first pregnancy so scared I'll never be a mum

This is normal we're grieving. Have you found any local support groups. I've found one in the local area I'm going to next week.

Sending love x

I know it's hard to believe right now but things will get easier in time. I had 2 mc last year and each time I didn't know how I'd get through it. I'm now 13 weeks pg but I'm only telling you that to give you hope.
Good luck, I truly wish you all the best. X x

It's the hardest thing I've ever experienced, and something that never really goes away. You just learn to live with the 'missing baby'. Even after 7 years & a lovely DD who came soon after, I find myself crying & wondering if it was a boy.

OP - don't give up heart, try to convince your DP to try again as it's the only thing that will help you feel whole again.

I really wish miscarriages never happened, it's too cruel.

It's completely normal, don't be too hard on yourself. My MMC was in May last year; it didn't really hit me fully emotionally until November when the due date would have been. I am only just starting to feel more positive this month. It does take time to work through.