how long post mc ttc before seeing GP?

[omama]

Hi all.

I fell pg with dc#2 last april after ttc for just over a year. We'd been referred to the fertility clinic so were completely thrilled we'd finally fallen. Sadly I had a mmc at 11weeks.

We started ttc again straight away but no joy yet. I'm wondering how long I should wait before going back to the gp - Its been almost 2 years since we first started ttc but only 9 months since I fell pg & 6 months since the mc.

Will I need to wait til we've been ttc another full year i.e. a year post mc?

I'm 34 btw. Thanks.

Hi omama. I'm in a similar situation (MMC last May, TTC since then but trying for 3 years now in total)I just went back to the GP 2 weeks ago and they are happy to refer again (we were already on a waiting list for first appointment with a specialist when I got pregnant last time) but we have to have all the same tests done all over again before they will refer. We were told to come back after 6 months if no success, but I am 35. I would just go and beg for one if I were you. Good Luck!

Thanks St4rfish. Its a rubbish situation to be in isn't it. I feel bad for moaning when there you are having ttc a year longer than us . I really hope it happens for you soon. Have you got any other children?

We've already got a ds (3.5) who is bright, funny & an absolute joy, & I am so, so grateful to have him. It doesn't stop the yearning for another one though . I hope that doesn't sound selfish.

I always said 2 years would be my limit for ttc but now we're almost here I don't feel I'm ready to give up hope yet. Tbh we haven't been 'trying' all that hard lately - just going with the flow, so I think we might give it one last try with opks & charting (we ditched that after the mmc - was too stressful) & if it doesn't happen then I'll have a chat with my GP & see where we go from here. I will be 35 later this year anyway so I guess its best to go sooner rather than later eh?

Best of luck to you too.x

Don't be silly: it isn't selfish and 2 years is a long time! It isn't a competition for longest under sufferance! To be honest, after 2 years, another year feels like nothing, I just can't remember a time before TTC very well anymore....

The annoying thing about miscarrying is that I feel like a year has been wasted; we are no further forward than we were at this point last year. We don't have any children yet, this would be our first, so getting pretty desperate now. Having another 'chuck everything at it month' while the tests for the referral are being done: OPKs, DD every other day plus every day through fertile window, weird supplements, acupuncture...I am honestly fed up of it all though after nearly 40 cycles (lost count!) It is indeed shite! I know what you mean about not giving up hope, but I think we are at the point now where IVF is our next step, sadly.

Worst thing is, all the 'TTC after miscarriage people' in the conception boards I have read about seem to have all graduated and got pregnant again already...