newbie- will i ever have a baby?

[verity888]

Hi ladies, I have decided to join up as I am just feeling so low and in need of support. Basically I am currently undergoing second miscarriage. I had a previous one at 12 weeks last year and had ectopic and tube removal in august. I have no children and am beginning to wonder if I ever will. Xx

So sorry for your losses verity, no wonder you're feeling low tonight.

I was lucky in that I only had one miscarriage and subsequently had DS. In my NCT group was another woman who had two miscarriages before her first DC. So it does happen.

Be gentle with yourself. Big hug. x

Thank you. It is helpful to hear of people who had a loss and went on to healthy pregnancy. I just feel sore, fat, depressed and lonely. It will get better I know, just venting xx

Hello! I had two miscarriages and now have two dcs. I had a friend who had five and now has a lovely baby.

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time. I too had a mc then went on to have a healthy baby. I found Mumsnet a huge source of support. There are lots of TTC after miscarriage threads. My advice is to try and do something for you so it doesn't become all consuming. So take up a new hobby, set a goal, do all the things you can't do when pregnant or with a newborn etc! Fx next time you get a sticker!

Oh yes - and my dr told me to try again ASAP after the pregnancy was safely clear as any left over hormones might help conception.

You are grieving, I think it's important to take time to do this or it can be worse later. I've had 4 mcs between my two dcs. It was worth it all in the end. One thing I would say is make sure you get good medical care. If your local hospital isn't helping, go elsewhere.

Thank you ladies :) overwhelmed by the support. Just what I need ( and wine) xx

Hi verity I'm so sorry for all you've been through. If I read your post correctly you've now suffered three losses including the ectopic, which means you should be eligible for referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic. If you want to know more about testing please come and join the RMC thread on this board, there is lots of support available for difficult days. I'm now 19 weeks pregnant after 3 MC in a row. There is help available and hope for the future, no matter how bleak it all seems at the moment.

Hi bakingtins, that's what I thought. But fertility centre said they don't count ectopic as a mc, so won't get testing/help until/if I have another one x

That's harsh. I'd try to get referral via GP if you have a sympathetic one. I actually went private for an initial appt after my 3rd MC because as I had DS after the first one I wasn't 3-in-a-row and it didn't count. The consultant recommended lots of tests and GP did most of them on the NHS on her say-so. I know other people have paid for a private appointment then been referred to the consultant's NHS list, so it may be worth considering. Easy enough for them to say "just try again" when it's not them dealing with the emotional fall-out

Stupid question, how do I join a board? Looking for one on TTC after mc.

Thanks in advance x

You join a thread, just add a post and say hello, then it will appear in your "threads I'm on".
Try this one TTC after miscarriage thread