early miscarriage

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I'm not sure why I'm posting here.
I found out was pregnant with our second a week ago. Started bleeding Thursday and a scan confirming no heartbeat so just letting nature take its course and then back for annother scan to make sure everythings gone.
I feel distraught, but at the same time Like I'm being really silly for feeling like this. Ds was a threatened early birth due to cervical problems and I feel like I'm just a big failure.
I just want to hide away in bed.

Ahh you are not a failure.
Shit like this happens for no apparent reason sometimes. No one's fault.

You hide away in bed all you want, until you are ready to face the world again if it helps.

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You are not being silly - just because you didn't know that you were pregnant for long doesn't mean that you shouldn't grieve for this baby.

Thankyou. Just found at that a friend has had a still birth on Friday. So feeling like an awful human being for being so upset for myself.
I just wish I had something to show for the 9 weeks I was pregnant. And that I hadn't drank all that coffee!

There will always be someone worse off than you. That doesn't invalidate your feelings of loss. For most women the baby is real and they have all sorts of hopes for their future as soon as they know they are pregnant, and you need to allow yourself to grieve however you see fit.
for you and for your friend.

Thankyou.I guess I feel like I don't have a right to be sad. This is my 3rd miscarriage and I feel a bit like it's the culmination of them not just this one.

3 MC is the point at which they start investigating. Is it 3 in a row or were some before your DS?
Whether it's your first or third loss, you have a right to be sad. I agree that the sense of injustice does accumulate as the losses mount up.

1 before my son and then two after. I need to chase up with the GP about testing. DS was a threatened miscarriage throughout due to cervical problems although this didn't seem to have an impact this time.

I had v similar circumstances, GP said I wasn't eligible for referral so paid £200 for private appointment but then GP as happy to run most of the recommended tests for me.