Forgotten, even by dh

[omama]

Had a mmc at 11 weeks last June. EDD was yesterday. Feeling sad enough about what might have been as it is, but had hoped that my family would actually remember & at the very least, acknowledge it. Not one of them did. . Not DM, MIL, DSiS or DSIL (who has also been through mmc) Not even DH. I finally asked him in the evening - he'd completely forgotten & he more or less said 'oh well' & that was that. Maybe I'm being daft for thinking he'd be bothered too, but I can't help feeling a bit hurt.

I am, however, truly thankful for my friend who was the one & only person who DID remember.

I know we can't change what happened, but I still feel cheated of the baby & life we should have had. Since the mmc, pressure got too much so we stopped actively ttc & are just using an if it happens it happens approach. I'd secretly hoped that by my EDD I'd be expecting again but its just not happened & am feeling a bit deflated today. Its been almost 2 years of ttc & I am trying to accept we may never have another. Does the sense of loss ever go away?

Omama so sorry for your loss, I do think that men don't latch onto the EDD like we do, and I don't think it is because they don't care, but I agree with Katatonic that you should talk to DH and see if you can do something together.

It's great you had a friend that remembered, I think that is also rare as people do just forget dates, don't take it personally.

xx

Thanks ladies.

katatonic - sadly I don't think DH is all too bothered. He was at the time but has more of an 'it wasn't meant to be' attitude now. Which has, for the most part, been great, as he's kept me positive when I've felt down about it. I think you might be right about it getting easier now the EDD has passed - I might suggest we do something this weekend to mark the occasion & then try & move on. Its a lovely idea

As it happens, today both MIL & SIL have text me to say they were thinking of me yest, so seems I wasn't completely forgotten after all.