Miscarried at 20 weeks ;(

[skhatun]

Hi, I miscarried at 20 weeks in March 2013 . I don't feel I have the strength to explain what happened to me. But wondering if anyone else has experienced the same heartbreak and wants to chat. Pls inbox me

Hi skhatun I haven't experienced such a late loss, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you get replies from other women who have been through similar. If not, I wanted to suggest that the SANDS website has a forum where you can chat, and they mainly deal with late loss and stillbirth.

Thank you. I've been to a group where u can meet women and chat it was very helpful. Yes I've had a couple if messages ;)

Yes. October 2010 my DD died we think. She was born on the 9th Oct two day after my 20 week scan where we found out she was gone.

I know what you mean. There aren't adequate words and it's exhausting to try and articulate. In some ways there is nothing to say, but my heart and head are still so full of it, of her, and of my heartbreak and I can't bear the silence either.

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. That sounds so inadequate, but I mean it with every bit of feeling and understanding of the grief.

I am having a terrible day today. We were very lucky to have a wonderful little girl just under a year after losing our first. She's now 2.5 and many of my friends with toddlers are having subsequent babies. Another announced a pregnancy today and it's triggered some huge emotional flashback type experience for me. All the joy of the start of the pg, the hopes, the expectations that as the months went on felt sure to be, then that all being destroyed in a moment. And the pain, the pain. And then the horribly mentally traumatic experience of pregnancy after a late loss. I have been crying on and off all day. I feel wrecked. Today it just HURTS.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Even more heart breaking to learn having kiddies and years gone bye don't seem to make the pain any less I can't seem to inbox u ;(