Second Miscarriage in 6 weeks

[kitkat321]

I had an early mc on 2nd October - I was only 5 weeks + 4 and afterwards was keen to try again asap.

Confirmed this monday that I was pg again - was delighted that it happened so quickly but once again I only got two days to enjoy it before I had another mc - MW thinks I'm only just 5 wks this time.

It just seems so unfair that so many people have no issues at all and I have to go through this twice!

This one hasn't been so physically stressful - just felt like a normal - if slightly more painful period. Emotionally I'm actually ok but it just sucks.

I'm torn between trying again in the next few months or putting it off for a while because I really don't like the thought of having 3 in quick succession - I'm already worried that there is something physically wrong with me that is preventing me staying pg beyond a few weeks!

Sorry kitkat that is rubbish. I would wait at least one period before trying again to give your body chance to build up a decent uterine lining, and in the meantime keep taking your pre-preg vitamins, and poss iron (your GP might check levels for you - you may be anaemic after 2 heavy bleeds in quick succession). It's then up to you whether you feel ready to try again or need to give yourself more time. Hopefully you have just been unlucky and will be ok next time, but if the worst happens and you lose a third, at least you will qualify for testing. I know that is not much consolation. I think my second loss was hardest to deal with, I felt I'd had my share of bad luck first time round and it was just beyond a joke.

Hi KitKat, so sorry to hear about your loss. I think I'm about to go through the same thing as you.

I had my 3rd MC on 17th Oct at 6+3, and it was a very light one, not even as heavy as a period. Two weeks later I must have OV'd, because I am now 4+1.

Yesterday I woke up with some backache and cramps and today all my nausea seems to have disappeared.

I think I will start to bleed soon, and at this early stage I can't get any support from EPU.

It's a bastard, isn't it? I have 2 healthy DSs, but since starting TTC last November, I have had no luck getting past 6 weeks. I did think I'd done it in April, but it was a MMC, which I lost at 12 weeks with gestational age of 6.

The good news (!) is that after 3 consecutive MCs you can be referred to the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic (RMC) and they can do a barrage of tests to try and diagnose any underlying issues.

I have my RMC referral appt next Thursday, but I kind of already know what they're going to say - I'm getting old - and at 41 I think they're probably right, which is why I'm just going to keep getting back on the horse and trying again, hoping eventually one will stick.

Everyone is different. I like to think I can cope, but I have already been crying today about another possible loss, and this is when I've been refusing to look at EDDs and think about possible babies at the end of it all. But I already know that if this one has gone I will try again, because the idea of not is scarier!

It is unfair, but we can both get pregnant, so that's one hurdle done. Now we need to get one to stick.

Good luck!

Hi KitKat and TannyLoo

It probably helps to know that we aren't the only people going through this, especially when all I see around me are happily pregnant people.

I had my second mc a week ago (5+2), after losing the first on 29th July (11+4, though it was a mmc and no idea when the bean stopped growing as I lost it before having a proper scan).

I conceived after two AFs post mmc, but it still failed. I don't want to wait before trying again as I'm about to turn 39 and have no children of my own yet (though I do have a gorgeous step-daughter who is 5).....so no time to hang about. The gynae who spoke to me after my mmc said there was no reason to wait, other than for dating purposes...and in fact she said that she herself had had as many mcs as live children, and one of them was conceived before her first AF appeared...so I think a lot of this is just luck (and bad luck).

Hugs to you both!

Bakingtins - thank you. I think I’ll probably leave it longer than that before trying again. There is so much upheaval when going through this that I don’t really want to go through it again.

TannyLoo fingers crossed for you that it’s just some early cramping. Will the EPU not help at all? I have to say, this time I went to a different EPU as the first mc required me being carted away in an ambulance but the mw was really good and made me feel better – I’d still give them a call maybe??

Ruggle - so sorry for your losses. I’d read that trying again immediately after a mc increased your chances of a healthy pregnancy but my MW was surprised I’d tried again so quickly.

Like you say, I think luck sometimes does have something to do with it but I think the doctors/mw’s also sometimes use that “bad luck” card because they don’t understand what has caused it.

Fingers crossed you get a BFP soon and get your own baby!

I'm going to deal with this by having a fair few drinks tomorrow with friends - also got an impending house move to focus on so will be able to keep myself busy!

Am 41, miscarried oct 2013 and got pg 1st time tryung last January.
Consultant said to have 3 periods b4 trying, I think combination of giving body a rest and mind a rest from ttc.
Lots of luck 2 you all.

So sorry xxx
I've had several mc's and my dr prescribed me low dos aspirin as a preventative.

My friend also saw a private specialist, who -amongst other things- prescribed aspirin.

Another friend who is a Mdwf had a mc, and started taking aspirin without even being told....she's just had twins :)

I'm pregnant (7th time!) I'm 17 weeks.
Have been taking low level aspirin all along and so far so good.

Might be worth considering?

Good luck to you all xx

I am a RMC patient of Prof Quenby who specialises in implantation issues and she specifically advises against taking aspirin unless you have a diagnosed clotting disorder as it can interfere with implantation. St Mary's have told several people on the RMC thread the same. If you do have a clotting disorder you prob need heparin anyway.
I was told to take aspirin by prev consultant ( the same one who didn't know what was wrong with me or why I kept losing healthy embryos ) so I am not disagreeing that the advice is out there.
The problem is that much of how the various treatments work is still unknown and that the vast majority of women who miscarry do not have anything wrong with them and will be fine in a subsequent pregnancy, and of course will credit whatever they did differently that "worked".

Well, yes. I'm not a dr. But can only say I had 3 healthy pregancies in a row before the losses started.

So, it seems to have "worked" for me this time, or maybe it's just luck.
Who can say :)

This happened to me last year, first loss in January at about 5 weeks, second in February at only 4 and a half, but conceived again immediately and carried that to term. It was a bit grueling though and if I'd realised you could conceive repeatedly like that I would have had a break after the second! especially as I had a terrible pregnancy and it would have been better to have been a bit fresher and stronger at the start.

I was quite calm about the mcs but only really because my mum was the same and for her it went with high fertility - immediate conception, lost about half early on - so I wasn't too worried about it.

My Gp was very nice though and did some blood tests after the second even though it was too early to refer me. By the time the results came through I was pregnant again anyway. There are some things gps can check for quite simply so it might be worth an appointment.

Thanks for your comments.

Kalidasa - your post has given me some hope although I'm not in such a rush to try again - well, I say that but I'm actually a tad worried that there maybe something underlying that is causing the issues and is it better to ttc again to see if we have the same issues 3rd time.

I'm going to wait to have a normal cycle and then we'll see what happens - we are moving home next year and will probably have to rent somewhere in the interim which might be tricky with a young baby or being heavily pregnant!