Miscarried today :(

[junebaby2014]

Hi there took me some time to find this thread....

Ok so heres my story :( i'm crying as i write this because i am so confused in my own little body.

Yesterday i had a slight pinky orangy discharge when i wiped myself, this morning it was more red so called hospital. I would be around 10 weeks now.
Hospital advised me to go in straight away for scan and check up.

Had scan pretty much right away, had to empty my bladder as was too full, baby was there but no heart beat.. She said i was measuring just over 7 weeks!

The bleeding has stopped and has done since 7:30 this morning, my pads are clean and dry. The sonographer did get a second opinion for my little jelly beans heartbeat and was confirmed baby wasnt alive.

Does anyone know when the baby will pass? Bleeding will start again?

I heave heard a lot of stories of false miscarriages and baby was smaller and less weeks than expected and heart hadnt formed, can this happen?

Obviously i'm not going to get my hopes up but my body is rejecting this information today. All i have done is cry, my partner is so upset as well.

Any advise? ??

Nope not yet. That's a whole other thread to itself! Good luck today, I too just wanted the uncertainty to stop. If you need anything let me know.

Cant get booked in until next wednesday!!

It's happening now. I'm in so much pain, pain killers arent even touching the pain! Lying on the couch with my hot water bottle, but the pain is so sore, bleeding getting heavier.. Feels like a major period pain constant! Tears are streaming down my face ??

junebaby2014
You poor thing! Have you thought about getting yourself to A&E?
I went through this at 11+4 (end of July) and I had what I assume were proper contraction pains....like very intense period pain, but it came in waves until I'd passed the sac....and I went to A&E because I was feeling terribly faint and I found the bleeding to be unmanageable. They put me on a drip and gave me heavy duty painkillers, but apart from that I chose to let everything happen naturally and was glad that I did.

Hopefully now that it's happening it will progress quickly and you will start to feel a bit better, physically if nothing else.
It really is a ghastly experience to go through. I hope you have someone with you!

Sadly I have just lost a second pregnancy, but it was very early, so less pain and less traumatic, but still devastating.

Thinking of you!

Hi June, I went the medical management on Wednesday (the tablets) and while there was some amount of cramping the nurses were really good and the painkillers worked. I asked specifically that I wanted to keep the sac and our little one when it came through-but you can also ask this before the d&c.
I decided to go with the pills as you need a general anesthetic for the d&c and like you mentioned there's a risk of your womb being punctured (very very unlikely though) and also a v slight risk that the lining of your womb remains thin and reduce fertility. But then there are also risks of the medical management side in that everything might not have been passed through which could lead to infection which can lead to scarring and reduced fertility. I'm booked in for another scan in 3 weeks time to ensure all is gone.
Whatever way you go, know it's the right one for you and be super gentle with yourself. You and your partner have been in my thoughts in this sad sad time, take care of yourself x

Oh June, I just saw your last message. If you are bleeding through a pad in less than an hour this is considered too heavy and you really do need to go to the hospital straight away-also they can give you Oxycodin which is full on but can really ease the pain (I found the other painkillers Ponston slightly helped but it was the Oxycodin that really helped.)
Please get yourself to the hospital as they can also give you some of that medicine to assist you passing through your little one.
Much love to you darling xxx

Oh ladies. I feel for you both so much. June how are you doing?? I hope you got through the night ok?? I just want to give you both a huge hug.

sovsad I hope you're feeling ok too? I just wish that I could somehow magic everyone's suffering away.

Thinking of you both.

Hi girls!

Not good today, baby in process of passing now. Been heavily bleeding since 6am this morning and been up since 4 with pains. Getting worse now, its such a horrible process and us ladies should never have to go through this

Had to cancel the surgery for next week, had a feeling it would happen before anyway so i had prepared myself!

The pain is indescribable! ??

Want to thank all you girls for all your support, and after the year i hope to be back here with a little bun in the oven..

Love and hugs to you all ??

June hope you are ok. Bleeding should slow right down after you pass the sac. If the pain is more than you can cope with or if you are bleeding through more than a maxi pad an hour then phone EPU or Gynae ward (or A&E if you can't contact anyone) and go in to be checked.
You should have some follow up to make sure the MC is complete, either a follow up scan or to be asked to take a HPT to make sure that it is negative after a week or two.
I hope you have someone looking after you.

June, was in work, just on the way home (2 hour commute... Hellish!). How are you doing?? Really hope you're feeling ok. It's totally fucking shit (it's appropriate to swear).

I don't know what to say my dear, but all I can unhelpfully say is, it will be over soon, and then you can start to think about looking onwards. As I said before its small, small steps. Some days are way better than others.

But for now concentrate on you and your lovely dp. You are a very strong and brave woman, don't ever forget that.

I hope you are now feeling a little better and you never have to go through this experience again.

x

Hello.

All better now.
Pains away, bleeding much lighter.. Thank goodness that is over :( i never ever want to experience that again!
I had a nap pretty soon after it passed, i didnt see the sac so it must have been inside a clot or something they where the size of tennis balls :( horrible horrible thing for us girls to go through.
My dp did make a joke earlier that he put his hands up and said that men have it so much easier than women and doesnt know how we can all cope with it.
I said its not that we want to cope with it its life! Its cruel!

But i am feeling a lot better to be honest, physically, i feel empty :( which is a pain to feel emotionally!
But taken it day by day.
I have 1 more week off work will return on 26th november.

Scared to face work,
I work with over 100 people on my floor and they where all so happy for me and every day ensuring i was ok. Going to be hard to tell the people who maybe havent heard and bringing it all back. ??

So glad the worst physical bit is over for you.

Don't worry about work. My work is very male dominated and very unforgiving and they were amazing, I was shocked! There are bigger things to worry about, so please don't even let it cross your mind!

Emotionally you will be up and down for a while (I still am). Please don't let it scare you, it's completely natural and to be expected. Sleep well l

Glad the worst is over. Try to get some rest.

Can you get someone at work to ensure anyone who knew you were pregnant is told? You really don't want to have to explain yourself over and over again. There is a good leaflet on the Miscarriage Association site called "Someone you know" which explains basic facts about miscarriage and a few "don't say" comments. You may want it to be distributed to colleagues.