First miscarriage .... advice please

[cookielove]

Hello all, i would really like some information, on the 24th of September we discovered our baby died at our 12 week scan (baby died at 8+6) which of course the worst news possible we decided that a ERPC would be the best course of action for us, which was carried out just under a week later. I had a very easy recovery little if no bleeding after the initial operation and bleed from that, and not much pain (no pain killers needed). I took a test a week after my operation and got a negative (although i saw a very faint line dh thought i was crazy) took another one a few days later and it was also negative (completely)

So 11 days after the op, i got a period for one day, very much like my period normally is but one day instead of 3-4. Then last week i had a period which last 2 days solid bleeding with a break then another day of bleeding, which is not uncommon for me to have the break. I think my body is getting back to normal and hopefully i will get my next period regularly from now on unless we get a bfp, does that sound right to you lot?

Also at the ultrasound they were able to see fluid on the baby's abdomen, and in the neck which they told us pointed to a chromosomal problem which most likely caused the baby to die, in spite of this we still have requested genetic testing, which we are now waiting on. We were just wondering what information will be given, will the they tell us the sex of the baby? Also do they send this information to our address, and how long does it take to come through?

Thank you

Sorry to hear you have been through this. It does sound like your periods will be back to normal now. Mine settled back down within a couple of months after my ERPC.

I'm sorry but I can't help with the second part, I would have thought they will send it to your address or phone you. I suppose it depends what they found. If it's something that you can pass on they might want to investigate further or if it was a mutation just in this pregnancy they might not.

Try not to worry about the results too much, I know that's a lot easier said than done, you've both been through a horrible time and I hope you get your answers soon so it's no longer hanging over you.

cookie I'm v sorry you lost your baby.
The first cycle after MC is referred to not too affectionately as the WTF (what the f*) cycle because all sorts of weirdness can happen. Hopefully if you've now had a reasonably normal AF you will be back on track hormonally.
We had genetic testing of our 4th MC, the results took about a month to go back and we were given them at a hospital appointment. We didn't ask the sex, but I know of other people who have been told, so that information is probably available if you want it. I'd phone the ward where you were treated and ask how you'll be informed. I hope it brings you some peace about what happened, and that you'll be reassured it's not likely to happen again.

Thank you.

Sorry to hear of your losses, I think I'll give them a call next week if I get nothing through!