advice needed asap

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My DW is a member of mn so as she raves about it I thought I would quickly join to ask if anyone can help me,my DW is going through a miscarriage at home I have no idea what to expect,baby passed away at 8 weeks and 6 days DW was meant to be 12weeks and 5 days and its just started so please just tell me what I can do for her and what she needs, I have sorted her pain relief, and giving her comfort,I have a hot water bottle but no idea where she should hold this thanks to all who read this and sorry if I bring back memories but as I said just don't know what to expect,

Sorry I haven't been able to update got 3 other kids to look after and my wife so far bleeding has calmed got her a iron supplement and made her eat,but still no pregnancy sac,so concerned about that,and to top it all off got my landlord harassing me telling me and my family to get out of his house and he will give a reference,if we don't he won't,he won't repair this place leaking roof for over 2 years more black mould than
you have ever seen,this is now her 3rd concurrent Mc in a row I did some research and this stuff could be toxic there is no reason for her to have 3 as last one there were NO abnormalities found and put it down to infection, when researched on animals it can cause Mc abnormalities and stops fetal growth this is what keeps happening with ours they just stop growing, I always clean our house try getting rid of it with bleach,it keeps coming back,£80 London base shoes covered in mould everywhere I look mould is coming,window frames covered

You might not be aware of the sac passing. I've had 4 MC at 8-10 weeks and only once been aware of the sac, the other times it was lost in the heavy bleeding and clots. If the bleeding has settled that often means it has gone. Your wife should have a follow up scan arranged to make sure the MC is complete and nothing is retained.
If she has now had three in a row, the only bright point is that you will be eligible for RMC testing. If you want to know more about it see the RMC thread on this board.
Your living conditions and the stress with the landlord are not what you need right now. Living with damp/mould can't be good for any of you. I don't know much about it but would think the landlord is obliged not to put your health at risk, possibly legally liable for problems resulting from it? I'm sure it's worth getting some advice about it.

Thank you to everyone for your comments and support its been really nice of you all

I was discharged today after a medically managed miscarriage. I was told NOT to take ibuprofen as it can slow the bleeding down and I'm not allowed to take it for at least another 5 days. I was also told that soaking through 3 pads in an hour needs medical help. Please make contact the EPU as they may want to rescan your wife to ensure no products have been retained.

I'm not even sure she has passed, my wife seems to think she hasn't passed it yet I will definitely make contact with the epu tomorrow morning

Please please do. From a practical point of view (if she hasn't already) tell her to only have sips of water this morning - not even tea or coffee. Just in case. I'm so sorry you are both going through this.