think I miscarried, sorry long

[JennyLee]

I had a period a few weeks ago i can't remeber exactly when as it was enough only to use one tampon and disappeared pretty quick, I didnt think much of it. My next period 12 days ago was light for the first week just spotting when wiping (sorry if tmi)but terrible painful back pain and cramps (not usual for me)and when I lay down was not as bad but when i woke up in the morning it would feel like was dropping down and hurt more and then it went more normal for a few days and now has tailed off it lasted 12 days, I think I must have been pregnant and not realised but I realised enough not to get a pregnancy test as then I knew I would cry and feel like I'd lost something, problem is I feel a bit crap and my dh and mom are a bit like a least you did not know for sure, should I tell a doctor this or does it sound not like a miscarriage more paranoia, also my periods have never been like this ever before and if it was would have been from bd'ing on the 3rd or 4th of May so about 7 actual weeks after bd, i had just gone to dr for more contracpetive pills but now I want a baby, don't want to take them. Paranoid or should i tell the dr?

Speak to your gp about your concerns . I can totally sympathise as I have just been through a very early miscariage over the last few days. I was in 2 minds wether to do a test or not but had a niggly feeling something wasn't right, and felt I needed to know one way or the other. The gp didn't really do anything, but it felt like some sort of need to see him and confirm that it was a pregnancy/miscarriage rather than "odd" period iyswim. Go with what your gut is telling you to do.

I suppose that first period could have been break through bleeding which was then followed by a mc. When I had my mc it followed a similar pattern (esp the dropping sensation) with incredibly bad period pain - similar to contractions.
I don't suppose you'll ever know if that was a mc. If it makes you feel better to ignore it then do so but I imagine part of you will feel the need to grieve for it even though you were never aware that you may have been / were pregnant.

Jennylee,

The choice is ultimatley yours.
Test if you want to know for sure. The pregnancy hormones will still be there.
Whatever the outcome, remeber we are all here for support and will listen.

Thank you so much for your replies, I may get a test but the hormones are probably gone by now. It is good to be heard on mumsnet and have people understand that even though it might be trivial and I was not ttc at the moment it leaves me feeling kind of strange . my dh is a bit trying to be sympathetic, but it does not ring true as he does not really understand what it is like. and he is happy not to really know. I did not want to test as have 2 tests before that were positive followed a few days later by period(last april and before ds was born years ago) so I know it can happen to me. felt like I was going a bit mad, my mom got all it might be a baby but today I said the bleeding stopped she said 'oh well it is better than being pregnant' so that sucked and I was offline and did not want to get expensive pg tests when I can order online and get loads for cheap(we were moving house while this happened) thank you again for replying, no one knows how often mumsnet saves my sanity

It definitely sounds like a mc .

I just had a mc at 9 weeks (I found out at the dating scan and it took another couple of weeks for the bleeding to start) and I bled for 2 weeks. I was told the pg hormones should have disappeared after about 10 days of bleeding, so I doubt it's worth testing now if the bleeding has stopped.

I'm sorry your mum and dh aren't being v helpful. My dp veers from not seeming that bothered about it, as if it barely crosses his mind, to saying how devastating it is. Tbh I find it hard to know how he really feels about it .

My mum has been good, but she had 2 mcs herself before I was born and found them v upsetting esp as she only knew she was pg because she knew she'd miscarried, like you.

yes I think you are right, I think the hormones will be gone, as before it happened I had constant heartburn and some slight waves of nausea and that has gone (think I was in denial to be honest) sorry to hear about your loss, it is horrible for me as i go through months of baby madness when I want one and try to get pregnant and lately though I was not trying to get pregnant so I pushed it out of my mind, I think was when I suddenly stopped taking dianette a few months ago and thought it was too near my period to get pregnant and that I never concieve when I am trying so nothing will happen, now I want a baby again I don't want to take the pills now. My mom is like that as we are not set up for a baby dh has work issues and we are both in 3rd year need to do honours at uni, and have a 7yr old, but the way I feel just now none of that would have mattered to me. I hope you feel better in time, I know it is hard.thank you for posting

Now today on the 37th day of that same cycle I get my Af after becoming hopeful and wasting 3 pg tests, bit of a long cycle but I guess did not start of normally anyway, pisses me off.