I’m a long term lurker, first time poster.
DH and I have been ttc since June 2012. Got lucky in September 2012 after 5 cycles (at the time it felt like we had been trying forever which I now know was nothing!). Devastatingly this pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage discovered at the 12 week scan. I had an ERPC in December. Everything was fine from a physical point of view and we were advised to wait for one cycle before trying again. This made sense to me from an emotional point of view and to give my body chance to recover.
In January we started again in earnest. We were feeling quite positive and hoping that now we knew what we were doing it would take even less than five cycles. Here I am, 11 cycles in (I have 27 day cycles) and I’m still not pregnant. We have tried ovulation sticks, SMEP, temping, CBFM, not doing any of this and just EOD…nothing. We are both finding this really difficult. The changing seasons really emphasises the passing of time. We passed the EDD in June. I find it very hard to come to terms with the fact that this time last year I was pregnant, yet 12 months on I have no baby and am not even pregnant.
In the time since the miscarriage we have had so many pregnancy announcements from friends and several of those babies have now been born. I am obviously happy for my friends and excited for them but so envious and each time I hear pregnancy news a little bit of my heart breaks.
I am hoping to hear some positive stories about other women who have taken a while to conceive after miscarriage. It seems everyone on these boards benefits from the ‘increased fertility after miscarriage’ and is pregnant again after 3 or 4 cycles. Please share any stories and help me find some positivity again.