When to go back to work, did you have long off?

[davidtennantsmistress]

I just don't know if I'm ready or not.

I have a desk job, can sit, can function in body, can have a couple of days if data entry.

Had our op thurs, physically fine, emotionally not so much. Took last week off as holidays the weds and thurs.

Just not sure, but know when I return it's going to be a mad rush as we are so busy. :(

I had about three weeks after miscarriage was confirmed, but mine was a natural miscarriage so took a long time to finish.

sorry for your loss

My advice would be don't push yourself back before you feel ready. You don't owe it to anyone and you need time to recover. I started working a week after my ERPC, in hindsight pushed myself too hard and ended up with an infection and also delayed grief reactions which then took ages to work through.

The emotional consequences of a MC are really big for some people, and grieving takes a lot out of you. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to come to terms with it a bit before you rush back to work. If I were in charge of your care I'd tell you to take this week off.

Thanks quod, I think dp would rather that, and tbh I do have a long and chequered past of depression so it would be so surprise to have a bang as well.

I'm still bleeding, it's the awful lingering brown (sorry tmi) just not sleeping too well, or indeed crying randomly for no reason.

I'm a SAHM to a 2 year old. My op was on the Wed, DH took the rest of the week off but had to go back to work on the Monday and it was really tough - I wish he could have taken longer off. Physically I started bleeding again when he went back (no infection, apparently I just overdid things too soon) however emotionally it meant I couldn't sit around dwelling on the miscarriage which I think helped me. Only really dealt with my feelings about it all once I fell pregnant again, probably not the best way to do it though!

I had over a month. There is no right or wrong. The gp was fantastic and was willing for me to have longer if needed.

Sorry for your loss.

As others said be kind and take your time

How long did it take you to re catch as it were?

Dp is back today, I've been signed off the week however, I'm going day by day today has been ok, mostly due to a lottery win fall of £100, time for me to peice dp together again.

I only had a few days, but i preferred to be busy

I went back to work after a week of bleeding (was still bleeding but only lightly) and only two days after the second scan that had confirmed the loss (although there wasn't really any hope since the lack of heartbeat the week before). I was going crazy after a week on the sofa crying constantly and thought it would be better to keep busy. It didn't work for me. I did two days and then left work in tears and had another 4 days off before returning to work the next week (today). I felt a lot better at work today, the two days I went back I was crying or on the verge of tears and it wasn't helping anyone, definitely not me. Please take as much time as you need.

I took a week off but work part time so it was a bit more staggered. If you're still prone to cry easily don't go back yet.

I took an afternoon the first time (was diagnosed on the Thursday, took that afternoon off, back in on the Friday, the worst of it passed over the weekend, back in on the Monday). It wasn't long enough for me.

The second time I had my 12wk scan on the weds, mmc diagnosed. ERPC on Saturday, took the next week off. I was signed off for a further week but wanted to get back. That was about right for me.

It's really very subjective, and doctors are usually quite sympathetic.

I had a D&C with my first mc and took two weeks off. With the second I waited and mc naturally. I didn't take any time off with the second and it wasn't any harder than the first or mean that it took longer to recover from. It was actually a little easier than the first but that is likely due to having been through it before. I suppose it was good to have a distraction and a reason to focus on something other than my sadness but the sadness was still there and still had to be dealt with when I had a quiet moment to do so. I am glad that the actual mc took place in the evening and not while I was at work though. I'm pg again and if this one ends in another mc, if I'm able to, I'll go the same route as the last one, it was the right choice for me.

I had 2 weeks off after both MMC which were then ERPC. I needed that time to get my head togetherish. Still very emotional and fragile after I went back though. Give yourself plenty of time and sorry you are having to deal with this.

oh and I got pregnant again 2 months after the first mmc and 3 months after the second. So no horrid anniversaries to deal with!

Thanks ladies,I'm having today and tomorrow as well after passing some clots yesterday.

It will be about 10 days when I return. :( it gives comfort that you've all caught again quickly, I always have after a chem pg, but my last mc at this time xh and I split after a month so it wasn't an issue.

First time was two weeks, second time was 3 weeks. If it happens again I have promised myself I will stay home until the grief has properly subsided, and not just return once I can hold my face still and fake it. Please take mire time than you think you need and return when you're really ready. Mc is a big event.