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ODB1515 · 19/09/2013 09:18

hello all
I am new to this forum and really feel like I need to talk to people that understand.
my story is as follows:
I had my son in 2009. It was an easy pregnancy and all was fine. We then had 4 miscarriages (all unexplained after having every test). My natural killer cells were slightly raised and when I got pregnant again, I was put on steroids, clexane and progesterone and had my second son in 2012. We started trying again in April and I had another miscarriage in June. Since we started trying again, I now bleed for a week before every period. Gynae thinks my hormones are all out of balance but anything she can do would act as a contraceptive so clearly not going to go down that route.
I am at such a loss and just dont understand why all this is happening again. I am trying acupuncture for the first time today as I am open to anything.
I just feel so lonely. I was quite open with all my friends when we had our miscarriages between my 2 sons but I dont want them all knowing we are going for a 3rd now. I just feel very alone and blue (sad)

Anyway, sorry for the long post......xx

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Purplefrogshoe · 19/09/2013 09:48

Hi ODB, im so sorry, ive had 3 mc, the most recent in july has turned it to be a molar pregnancy, its such an awful lonely sad time and no one in RL really understands but i found these boards a great help and support xx

BlueSkyandRain · 19/09/2013 10:12

Hi OBD I'm so sorry, it's just so rubbish that it can't all be straightforward. It is very lonely if there's no one to share it with irl. I have 3 dcs, my 4th was stillborn earlier this year and I've since miscarried at 6weeks. I've been very open with people about it - obviously with the stillbirth there was no choice as it happened at 36 weeks, but with the mc I've found it helpful to talk about it; as it was so early most people didnt know i was pg but I really have felt more sorted in my head since talking to a few people. It's surprising how many people share about things that they've had happen that you didn't know even when you thought you knew them quite well.
Do you maybe have one person that you trust to keep it to themselves that you know would have some understanding?
Good luck with the acupuncture - I've heard good things about it from several people, so it's definitely worth a try. And keep posting, I've had so much support here I'm sure you will too.
purple I'm so sorry to hear about your mcs too, esp the molar one.

Bakingtins · 19/09/2013 10:46

ODB I'm so sorry you have been through all that and are feeling isolated. There is a lovely thread on this board for for recurrent miscarriage and on the conception board for women TTC or pregnant on pred - do come and join us. You just get to a point where you don't know anyone IRL who has been through it over and over again.
I had an easy first pregnancy, a MC in 2009 then my 2nd son, then 3 miscarriages trying for no 3. I've just been diagnosed with high NK cells after nothing being found on the NHS tests and I'm trying the progesterone, clexane, steroids protocol. Were you using that for the pregnancy earlier this year? From what I know of NK cells it tends to get worse with every subsequent pregnancy so maybe you need to get them rechecked and higher doses or a different treatment? I also have some end of cycle bleeding and it's been linked to low progesterone levels so I'm on progesterone from day 21. Last MC I took it from BFP, but wasn't on the steroids or the clexane.
Come join us anyway, it helps to realise there are others struggling with the same issues.

butterfly86 · 19/09/2013 15:51

Hi Odb, sorry to hear about your miscarriages I've had 4. unexplained too I had the standard test everything was normal I haven't been tested for nk cells though, I have also had bleeding before my periods and more recently it's been mid cycle. My consultant blamed stress as we were getting married but I think that was a cop out on her behalf she just couldn't be bothered to investigate this is the first month in a long time that it hasn't happened. I've been having accupuncture for 6 months wether it's helping or not I don't know but it makes me feel like I'm doing something positive. We have had a 6 month break this our first month of ttc again, sorry I don't really have any advice as such but wanted you to know it's happened to me too, I'm on the thread that Baking suggested you should take a look everybody's lovely x

ODB1515 · 19/09/2013 19:12

thanks all - I will join the other thread too! xx

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