Miscarrying naturally and don't know if I'm pushing myself too much?

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I had a scan at 7+3 but there was no heartbeat and foetus measured less than 6 weeks. I started bleeding that day and had cramps and bleeding with clots and lumps for the next 6 days, when a scan confirmed there wasn't much tissue left. Being fed up of lying on the sofa and having to face up to the reality of the scan after 22 months of ttc I decided this morning I had to get out of the house and went for a walk with a friend and our dogs. The bleeding today and yesterday has been more like a period, but since I've got back I've had a really bad headache and horrible nausea. Is this pure coincidence or could I be pushing myself too hard? I was going to try going back to work tomorrow (I really want to keep busy and also the longer I leave it the harder it will be) as the nurse at epu thought the worst of the bleeding was behind me now, but I don't want to prolong my physical recovery if it was the walk this morning that has made me feel so ill. Before today it was just the cramps and total exhaustion. I had nausea yesterday morning but I put that down to the thought of coping with the scan.

Did anyone else find that pushing themselves too early made them feel ill?

I mc'd at 8 weeks earlier this year and just took one day off (the worst day of pain). Otherwise I carried on working. I took a longhaul business trip on the 5th day of bleeding and was away for a week or so with lots of meetings. I felt weak for a while but i think that was due to bloodloss rather than what I was doing.

On reflection I could have done with taking a bit more time to come to terms with things psychologically, but physically I was ok just carrying on. I preferred to keep busy.

I had severe headaches the second week after my mc (at 11 weeks) and felt absolutely exhausted, but I was off work for those two weeks, and most definitely not pushing myself.

Wow eurochick I know I wasn't capable of that!

Thank you both for your replies. It's so frustrating not being able to predict what could still happen and what to do for the best.

I'm very sorry for your loss

I went back two days after MC. After I had passed the embryo (at 8+3) the pain of mine was no worse than a period. The pain after was emotional but I needed to stop thinking about it. I was on light duties for a few days though. I did bleed on and off for a week though.

I was ok. Just tired and sad. I didn't have any headaches or anything.

I hover around the anaemia borderline anyway due to heavy periods, so it just felt like an extension of that for me (physically, as I said psychologically I really should have given myself some time to grieve).

I had nearly 5 weeks off after a mussed mc at 14 weeks. You really can't have too much time off to recover. You need to be kind to yourself and listen to your body. I think I was able to come to terms for things in this time. Don't rush back to work because you feel you need to.

Sorry for your loss and I hope you are feeling better soon.

Thanks for all the advice. I'm going to see how I feel in the morning.