ERPC today and finding it hard to deal with

[joellie183]

As title said really, I went in for it this morning and really wasn't physically as bad as I thought it would be but mentally I'm a mess and feels like I'm going to being like this forever.

What makes it worse I think is 1. knowing we were ttc for over 2 years and 2. that we won't be trying anymore as my partner left when i was 6 weeks. It just all feels do final and that was my last chance.

Oh sweetie I am so sorry. I found my ERPC gave me closure. Of course I felt broken that my chance of being a mum was taken away from me so cruelly. Things will get easier I promise. I am sure the other wonderful ladies who have been through the same will be along soon to offer support. x

Hi. It's such a hard time straight after the ERPC. Because any hope you might have had has gone. But there is hope in the future, I am now four weeks away and can only just start to think about a future baby.

Is there someone in RL who can give you a big hug and let you cry in their shoulder?!

Hi im so sorry, I had ERPC 4 July and physically felt fine but emotionally I was a mess but it does get easier I promise you xx

Hi Joellie I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I hope you are feeling physically ok today. Emotionally, give it time, it will get easier. I hope since you are doing this without the support of your exP you have others around you to look after you IRL. You need to grieve for what you've lost, then you will be able to pick yourself up and see there are lots of possibilites of better things in your future.

so sorry for your loss.
I had an ERPC on 4th July last year and it still hits me hard at times.
Give yourself time and space to heal (as best as is possible)

Thanks everyone and sorry for your losses too, until this happened I never knew how many people have and are going through this too.

yes feeling a lot better physically today. I have had lots of support which is good. ex p even came with me yesterday and stayed last night (on the sofa!!) to help out with my 8yr old dd and took her off to school for me this morning.

I know deep down in time I will be ok and think I will need to give myself a kick at times but need to focus on myself and my dd as she is going through a lot too and me moping around being miserable won't help her.

xx

No self kicking allowed! Be nice to yourself, you've been through a lot.