Marking due date today :-(

[TaytoCrisp]

Today I'm very sad. Our little girl should have been born today but arrived in January at 14 weeks. Our little boy arrived one year ago on Friday at 23 weeks. I'm not sure how to mark the day(s) but just feel very sad this week. I'm at work but thankfully there is no-one else in the office at the moment..

Just needed to write it down. Thank you for reading.

Xx

Hugs and hand-holding

What a horrible week for you. Can you take a trip to somewhere beautiful and say their names into the wind, or similar?

Be kind to yourself x

I'm sorry Tayto it's going to be a tough week to get through. I have started a little tradition of buying a charity gift on due dates/anniversaries. How about writing a message saying how you feel and releasing it tied to a helium balloon? Do something that appeals, anyway, it's important to acknowledge that these are significant days. Hugs.

Just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you and sending you love and healing vibes. I am not sure how I am going to manage my first anniversary (will be February) and am also going through complications with an early pregnancy at the minute which could go either way. I hope you can do something to mark the occasion if you are ready.

tayto im so sorry for your losses. This week will be shit, I hope u are surrounded by hugs in real life x

How horrible for you, as others have said, go easy on yourself, there are many of us out here who know how you are feeling and sending you a big cuddle x

Hi Tayto, I understand how hard it is. I miscarried in May 2012 at 7 weeks (would have been due Jan 22nd 2013) and my baby girl should have been born today but she arrived at 19 weeks on Feb 21st. I've been feeling really sad today too. Took the day off work to be sad because I wouldn't have been much use there today.
I have been to the cemetary to lay some flowers in the baby garden where we scattered her ashes and just sat for a while talking to her. My parents have sent me flowers today too (which was lovely but has made me bawl even more) to let me know they are thinking of us all.
It is so hard when due dates and anniversaries come and I don't think anyone truly gets it unless they have suffered a loss. I don't think you ever get over it, I'm hoping as the years pass by it will get easier to cope with. Big hugs to you at a truly shitty time XXXX

Thank you very much for your kind messages. I know DH is also sad this week but we haven?t said much about it to each other. I have been easy on myself though and not put myself under pressure at work, or under pressure to meet people. Though i did see a pregnant friend today ? 21 weeks ? so confident about the arrival of her new girl in winter ? i?m happy for her but also envious that she can be so sure about everything going smoothly, when i know that even if i had the courage to try again i would be constantly expecting a loss..

Thank-you for your ideas on what to do. I think a family day out with DH and lovely DD would be good at the weekend; i am grateful for them and at least we have our little family. It is just a rubbish time
though :-( and there is nothing i can do about that.

scorpion - i really hope things look up for you and the pregnancy turns out ok. Fingers crossed.

Nobhead - i remember your name from earlier this year. I?m so sorry that you have had this horrible experience too. Big hug.

Thanks again to everyone for the kind messages. I know you have probably had similar experiences ? so im sorry to be meeting you here on the this Talk thread.