saying goodbye at 11 weeks

[hollyhock34]

was 11 weeks pregnant on saturday, feeling really good. Sunday lunchtime i started spotting. As the evening went on the bleeding became much heavier and i started cramping. Had scan on Tuesday, no heartbeat. Decided to opt for a natural mc. I was warned it would be like labour pains but did not expect it to be so painful. My heart, back and abdomen are in agony and watching my partner in so much emotional pain is awful. Just wish i knew why.

hollyhock - I'm so very, very sorry.

For the physical pain - are you well stocked up on painkillers? If it all becomes too much don't be afraid to seek medical advice. I lost a baby at 7/8 weeks last year and it was very painful even at such an early stage.

For the emotional pain - I wish I could offer some wise, comforting words but I don't know what to say. Please be gentle and kind to yourself. It is so, so hard Xx

So sorry for your loss hollyhock. Wish you didn't have to go through this....have been diagnosed with mmc a couple of weeks ago, embryo stopped growing at 6 weeks, now would be 10 but nothing yet. Thinking of you.x

I am sorry to hear that it's the most awful thing. I was 7+1 today but I think very sadly I have miscarried today. I stared to bleed and then fished out what I think was my little one and placenta from the loo because I had to know if it was. I cried until I had no more tears left in me. I have an appointment to have a scan tomorrow late morning that will confirm that I am or not. But I don't feel pregnant anymore my tummy has gone totally flat again and boobs are no longer sensitive or sore. Devastating (sad) but I will confirm either way tomorrow about mid day ish there is still a little part of me that hopes they will tell me I still am. This is/was my first pregnancy with my husband.

Thanks for your words. Have any of you you had any answers as to why? I just can't understand how they can't give some information on this one.

Hi hollyhock I am currently in limbo stage it is awful and no answers or reasons seem after fri morn after bleeding and finding out I was preg but had threatened mc, had light bleeding and passed what looked like membrane was hoping was bedding in but hormone level from 740 on fri down to 149 tummy is bloated

And making strange gargling noises like hot bad belly or really hungry ? I haven't had any ultrasound or tests as the doctor through away what could have been my little baby that breaks my heart even more I just want answers and hope I go to 0 soon boobs still sensitive and tummy seems swollen even more

My tears won't stop coming even when not crying I'm an absolute mess I don't even know how far gone I was either why are they so callous to this tortorous situation

And yea I. Agree watching your partner hurt also horrible cant help feeling to blame what if ?

I think this site is the only thing helping me keep sanity knowing I'm not going crazy well not just yet !

I'm sorry for your loss hollyhock and boobstoobig big hugs xxxxx

Oh I am so sorry. I know what you have been through. I was 11 weeks with one of my losses and it was like proper labour.
My heart goes out to you. Very sorry for your loss xxx

Thanks junebug had scan today and nothing there on plus side couldn't see anything wrong but just horrible seeing empty hole sorry for your loss wouldn't wish this on anyone strangely day after blood test arms been dead since I now know its related not to the blood test but mc please let me get through this only hope is trying again sister at hosp said wait until body has had a period I want oneNOW lol

Xxx

I've very sorry for those of you going through losses at the moment
This leaflet from the Miscarriage Association (and indeed the whole site) is helpful in explaining the causes of miscarriage. I'm afraid it's unlikely after a first miscarriage that you'll find out what caused it in your particular case. I've had four, and after all the standard investigations I'm none the wiser. After 3 consecutive miscarriages they still don't find a cause in 50% of cases, which is why they don't test until then.
I know it would be much easier to bear if you knew exactly what had gone wrong.

Yeh bakingtins would make it easier indeed and so sorry for your losses no reason at all ? Just one of them things they keep telling me so annoying when drug addicts and all sorts manage to conceive and wonder how ?! You have to have 3 consequitive before inves gosh that's awful I feel for you not even an inclination I smoke so stopping that is the first stop also loosing some weight but again others manage it will make us appreciate our baby's so much more when we finally get to meet them ! Xx

holly so sorry for your loss!

in 2008 I had a MC at 11w +5. she'd be 4 years old.

1st trimester MCs are usually caused because of severe genetic problems.

we had our 12 weeks scan - corrected to 11w +3 on the day.

the sonographer went quiet when she was measuring the nuchal translucency.
the normal number is a about 5% or less - ours was 95%, which indicated a serious genetic abnormality.

2 days later at the 2nd scan there was no heartbeat.
I was devastated. I'm still grieving her and will always miss her.

(btw I opted for ERPC)

I don't know if any of that is helpful.
I'm here to hold your hand!

Saw the doctor yesterday. He thinks it would have been down to genetic problems as he said i was really healthy and everything looked fine otherwise. Placenta had come away but unfortunately bubba was wedged in my cervix. thought i'd been in a lot of pain but was beginning to think i was a wuss. Thank you so much to all for all your kind words. Big hugs to anyone going through something similar. It is both emotionally and physically horrendous. Be really kind to yourselves but don't give up hope. I know my partner is very much looking forward to trying again. I am too but just hope i can do it with excitement and not fear. Thinking of you all xx